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Posted 6/19/2011 3:43 AM (GMT 0)
Does anybody else find that you're extremely irritable, impatient, just down-right mean tempered w/ ur anxiety? Im not normally like that, but I over-react 2 little things, perceive ppl as being inattentive, uncaring & selfish. Even the ppl I love get on my last nerve the heat is running up the back of my head, Im trying to bite my tongue. Leaving food crumbs, 4getting a store item, complaining abt sthg I thk is small, the dog making a mess or horsing around. It makes me miserable... I hate being irritable & cant seem 2 stop it. Does this come w/ anxiety & what do I do with it?? Its bad & I dont want 2b like this!
Posted 6/19/2011 4:19 AM (GMT 0)
My husband could tell you with undeniable certainty that irritability goes hand in hand with anxiety!

I believe that a lot of it is from simple exhaustion. It is so tiring just dealing with your anxiety and getting through the day, that there is often nothing left to buffer the frayed/raw nerves that are left hanging out there!

I sometimes just remove myself from my 'victims' until I can play nice again. After some rest/breathing/relaxation, I can usually be let out of my cage:)

I have also learned to practice the art of stop, think, respond. It can prevent truckloads of regret!

You are so not alone in this. Take good care of yourself physically, mentally and spiritually, and your moods should be at their best possible place.

I hope that you are feeling as well as possible tonight friend,
S.C.
Posted 6/19/2011 4:36 AM (GMT 0)
Still cant get the dang nail iut if ghe box. Is it cheating ti have my son vet it and go thru it and verbally tell me whats in it?
Posted 6/19/2011 4:39 AM (GMT 0)
And eating. I get si irritated that I have to eat n I dont want to. Its too much trouble and nothing soinds appetizing. I hate to eat.
Posted 6/20/2011 8:47 PM (GMT 0)
BluAngel,

Boy do I understand what your going thru. I have been really irritable to the point of angry. Snapping at the ppl I love and I just can't get a handle on it. Not sure why my meds are not helping. I have been having roller-coaster moods everyday...one minute I'm Happy and then it can just turn off like a light switch to being depressed and crying to agitated and angry.

I am sending you warm wishes that you can figure out a way to stop it. Let me know if you find a way, I would love to know. My email address is listed under the members, would love to chat sometime.

Your Healingwell Friend,
Serenitee


Recently diagnosed with Bipolar 2 and Borderline...Manic Depressive, anxiety, and Panic Disorder. Ptsd...
Loop ileostomy in May 2011, Many different surgeries. Feel like I'm always having more and more medical problems. Just wish I could for once be doing great. Sorry, been feeling sorry for myself.
Posted 6/20/2011 9:20 PM (GMT 0)
Ah, Seren, do u evr sound like me. All of it. I call it a switch, too. And my moods change so FAST. I need to keep a journal and track how many times a day it changes and how long it lasts, rage the severity of it 1-10. It astounds me. Its not like that constantly, but like u, I hava multitude of medical issues so that complicates it, too. I will email u. Mine is also kisted. I dont have AOL IM. Im mobile so I have Yahoo and MSN IMs. HELLO TO EVERYBODY ELSE! Having a moderate pain day so the anx is a little higher. Still going to have to move to Mich end of month and it sends me into a tizzy just to think abt it. Im working on it.
Posted 6/21/2011 7:01 PM (GMT 0)
Yes,

Believe me, if you do not learn to relax or remove yourself from your loved ones when you are like this, they are going to start disliking being around you.  I started thinking, would I want to be around someone who acts like me sometimes?  The answer is no.  I know it is hard, I have done my share of screaming and nit-picking.  I just have to make myself stop and think about what it is like to be on the receiving end of these tantrums and that is what they are.

Gem

Posted 6/21/2011 10:33 PM (GMT 0)
Gem, u r so right. Thats why I just bite my tongue cuz I know its not them, its the anxiety. I tell them if Im having a bad day and then tell them how much I love them and I dont take it out on them. I know who I truly am and so do they. My sons n sister do understand. My sister and one son have anxiety/dep so they do get it. We talk it out a lot.
Posted 6/22/2011 12:11 AM (GMT 0)
yep,I do.I have even snapped at my mom then felt bad because she started her sentence talking to me with "you had better,then her usual little snicker".
Posted 6/22/2011 4:21 PM (GMT 0)
Hi guys. It bothers me 2 feel irritable cuz I havent felt like that n a long time. A few yrs ago I had terrible anger fits and while I dkdnt know it @ the time began using cog-beh techniques and over came it. Then a cpl yrs ago, guess my Addksons kicked in and also my zoloft maxed out, I had moderate spells of getting squally and angry in a low 2 moderate spells. Explained tbis to my family. Changed meds for Addisons and zoloft 2 prozac. Anger n irritability part vastly improved. Not having anger spells and usually just keep it to myself when I feel the bad irritability as I know its me and not them, but I hate feeling like this and dont kniw why it decided to come back.
Posted 6/22/2011 5:47 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Blue, it is good that you explained your feelings to your family, so they can better understand what you are going through.

It is understandable that you feel irritable and short-tempered right now. If you list all of the changes and issues that you are facing at the moment, it adds up!

Do the things that make you feel good and calm/at peace as much as possible, to give yourself a break from these feelings. I think that your mood will improve once the stress of moving/getting used to a new environment and living situation, subsides.

Keep posting, as everyong here is pulling for you! :)
S.C,
Posted 6/22/2011 7:20 PM (GMT 0)
Recommend 2 ne1 2 let loved 1s know. If I hava cold n cld effect them, having bad pain day, anx r good day, need 2 let em know. If s-thing bad happens, whatevr is going on shld b communicated neway n families, certainly cuz they hava rite 2 know whats going on w my health n their mother, know ithas nothing 2 do w them r hurt their selfesteem, some r genetic so they need 2 know symptoms, hiding stuff frm ppl causes THEM anx, helps 2 say it out loud n not expend energy pretending ur fine. They can understand. Dont ovrburden em w lots of details. Wld want 2 know if it was them. They know its prt of it, its ok 2 b honest, not stuff, trust their fam support ppl get sick n its not their fault, show how 2 deal w sickness w self n others. Didnt used to do that.
Posted 6/22/2011 7:47 PM (GMT 0)
Hey Blu,

It sounds like you have a good handle on how to deal with your increased irritability problems.  If I am out in public and a anxiety attack takes over I will signal my husband that I need to leave the area immediately and sometimes he will say it will only be 15 more minutes.  After 15 minutes I am ready to crawl, slam, break windows, jump through hoops or run to get out of the anxiety provoking situation and as I try to hold back tears I want to scream at my hubby to please take me home.  For me it is a frightful situation to feel so cornered.

Please do have your physician  check your meds to see if they could be contributing to your feelings of anger.

I am here to listen anytime your need to vent and are looking for ideas.

Gentle Hugs,

Kitt

Posted 6/23/2011 4:56 AM (GMT 0)
The meds usually work. Thk cll the move n stress associated, pain not getting nething done is just heightening it all. drs appts social anx.
Posted 6/23/2011 2:42 PM (GMT 0)
Good Morning Blu,

Hope today is a good day for you.  Remember we are here so know you are safe to vent away and talk with us anytime.

(((((((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))))))))))))))

Kitt

Posted 6/24/2011 3:51 AM (GMT 0)
Rough day. Son, his gf, 2 dogs took me 2 dentist, car broke down n heat 4 hr n half. Made me very sick. Gf more concerned abt dogs discomfort than if I fell over dead. She really shocks me still. phone battery went dead. Anx level out roof. Hard to be sick when u have ppl who r supposed to love n help u treat u like youre a pathetic pain when they actually live in ur house n sld help n be kind 2 u.
Posted 6/24/2011 3:48 PM (GMT 0)
Blue that is terrible! I hope that you are recovering from that...the heat can be dangerous. Drink LOTS of fluids today and get plenty of rest. Next time, maybe you can get a ride from a safer source. In our area we have something calle 'Outreach' that provides rides to people who need it for a small fee (I think it may even be a sliding scale)

Yes, cars break down through no fault of our own, but at least with a service car, they would have called and gotten you into another vehicle and on your way immediately.

I hope that today is a better day for you. Take care of yourself!
S.C.
Posted 6/24/2011 10:17 PM (GMT 0)
Heat blew an elec sensir out BUT GUESS WHAT?????!!!!!!!! I CALLED MYSELF AND GOT IN TO SEE THE GURU SPECIALIST DOC AND SEE HER TUESDAY!!!!!!!!!!!!! ITS A MIRACLE!!! IM SO HAPPY!
Posted 6/25/2011 4:20 AM (GMT 0)
Good news, and so soon! Let us know how it goes, what she says, and what comes next:)
S.C.
Posted 6/25/2011 4:21 PM (GMT 0)
I THINK INSTEAD OF TELLING PPL TO BE CAREFUL WHEN THEY GO SOMEWHERE ILL START SAYING WATCH OUT FOR MIRACLES, KEEP UR EYES open! Keep looking and researching and being ur own health advocate. There have to b answers out there for us but we cant settle. Keep looking! Try anything, keep trying drs and therapies and meds and anything else. Miracles and persistence! HUGGZ
Posted 6/25/2011 4:57 PM (GMT 0)
Blu,

One of my favorite songs, "Don't Stop Believin" - Rock on as you are on the right track. Many gentle hugs headed your way.

Kindly,

♥♥♥♥☺☺ ♫ ♫ ◊ ◊ ●_● Kitt♥♥♥♥


 

Posted 6/29/2011 5:54 PM (GMT 0)
Where 2 evn begin? Saw spec yday. Good news is she can help me. Awful news is soooo many med probs caused by STEROID OVERDOSING FOR YRS. The dexamethsone theyve had me on has been 16 times too much. Yeah. Its almost destroyed my body n brain. Caused all these fractures frm back to toes n now my R rib. She has a plan to help me but its going 2 take months, maybe a year. Its also responsible for so much of my anxiety n panic, fatigue, pain, shakes, emotional chaos, sleep probs, skin splitting, headaches, destruction of bone density, infections, you name it. Im a medical n emotional train wreck. Thk I dont have Addisons but more likely Cushings? Its going to take a long time 2 recover 2 whatevr point I can. Coming off the dex with prednisone is bad n going 2 b worse. She said it will b awful, but its got an end eventually. Im going 2 really need help 2 get thru this. Im a mess rite now. I dread this. My anx level is out the roof rite now. Tremors. How did ths happen to me???;
Posted 6/29/2011 6:35 PM (GMT 0)
Keep your focus on the good news Blue. The reality is that you have found a doctor who identified the problem, and can help you...that is fantastic!

Yes the road to recovery is perhaps going to be long and hard, but the road leads to good things, and that will keep you going:)

We are here for you through it all. You have a strong and eduring spirit that will carry you through this, I have sensed that since I have 'known' you!

Enjoy this positive news for now and try not to 'future trip'. You will take the hurdles as they come, and be victorious over this trial!

Take care, thanks for the update, and talk to you soon,
S.C.
Posted 6/30/2011 12:36 AM (GMT 0)
Ohhhh most definitely... and I find the little things irritate me more than the bigger things. There are times when I think "why am I getting so irritable about this?" I think it most definitely has something to do with anxiety.
Posted 6/30/2011 5:00 PM (GMT 0)
New - Ovr 20 yrs ago I developed an anger prob that seemed 2 coincide w anx but mostly dep. I dealt w that n had no prob w anger-irritability til the anx escallated so much abt 3 yrs ago evn tho anx was always there. My med probs make it worse. Used 2 only get angry @ big thgs. Like u, now it seems 2 just b little stuff I over react 2. Wking on it! Thats just not me!
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