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Posted 7/6/2011 9:49 PM (GMT 0)
Ive been doing alot of thinking and ive been worrying that my mom is going to outlive me. I dont want that to happen, it just crosses my mind everyday. Im in pain everyday and worry about every little pain. This gerd and anxiety is kicking my butt and wearing me down. Cant sleep or eat. Always thinking about the past and saying if i would of done this or not lived the way i did, i would be ok today. Now i just dont think im ever going to be normal again. I love my family very much but they just dont understand what im going thru.
Posted 7/7/2011 4:23 AM (GMT 0)
What about the past specifically bothers you (if you don't mind me asking?) The body is incredibly resilient and efficient at healing itself. Even if you were engaging in some risky behavior in the past, if you are now doing your best to take care of yourself, you will most likely be fine.

None of us can know how long we will live, and we can't live in constant fear of dying. This anxiety is often a fear of being out of control, and can surround some other core issues.

It might be a good idea to give this some thought and evaluation. If you think that it would be helpful, talking to a therapist could also help you to deal with these feelings.

I also have this worry. For me, it is centered around 'What would my kids do without a mother?' So in essence, my real issue is responsibility. You mentioned outliving your mother. Do you feel a sense of responsibility toward taking care of her? If so, then this could be feeding your fear about dying and leaving her behind. This is normal to a point, we do want to be there for our dependent loved ones...but if it is affecting your quality of life with excessive worry, then you need help.

Think about reaching out and talking to someone. It has helped so many here, myself included;)

Be well,
S.C.
Posted 7/7/2011 4:36 AM (GMT 0)
GREAT advise...........

Anxiety and depression is very treatable! many people every day have success stories from bad bouts of depression and anxiety. I was treated for depression in 2005 and now live a better life because of  the treatment I took.. It took a few months of therapy and some medication to help along the way, but It was worth every cent of the process! Get some help and see a mental health professional... you will be glad you did and the worry will be a thing of the past! Good luck !!! yeah

Posted 7/7/2011 6:23 PM (GMT 0)
I was a alcoholic for 5 years and i smoked pot for 6 years. And i didnt really eat that healthy. I dont think the damage can be reversed. I just want to be healthy again to be able to take care of her like she has taken care of me. But i dont know if i will ever be healthy again as theres no cure for gerd.
Posted 7/7/2011 7:01 PM (GMT 0)
I do believe that is all reversible...Some people engage in damaging behaviors for far longer than that, and have gone on to live long healthy lives!

Keep working on managing the GERD...that is all and the best you can do. Sometimes it takes years to find the right treatment/diet/lifestyle combination to combat chronic illness, but it can be done. Try to stay positive (this goes a long way in your health!) and hang in there:)

Take care,
S.C.
Posted 7/8/2011 2:14 PM (GMT 0)
Im trying to manage this gerd. I dont know about the years part, thats going to be the hard part. Its hard for me to stay positive when people around me dont believe me.
Posted 7/8/2011 2:41 PM (GMT 0)
Are you referring to your family, friends, co-workers? I know it is hard when you don't have the support that you would like. (I just recently posted about that myself)

Groups like this are really great in that we can and do support each other through our common issues, so keep posting. We will do what we can to help.

I hope that today is a good one as far as anxiety and GERD are concerned. Try not to be worried about what others think, stay focused on your health and well being....you are worth it:)
S.C.

p.s. I meant to commend you in the last post regarding your sobriety.  Great job on quittting the destructive substances...not many people can do that, and it shows much courage and strength on your part:)

Posted 7/8/2011 3:39 PM (GMT 0)
My step father was an addicted to drugs a while back with nothing and now he drives a mercedes, has his own business, and spoils my mom. You can recover from this too. Like SC says you have to stay positive and know that you can do it first. Oh and he was on harder drugs than marijuana. I believe in you and im sure you will have everyone on here support as well. Stay strong man and push through this rough patch you'll be good :)
Posted 7/8/2011 9:16 PM (GMT 0)
i dont know what to do to make my family believe that im sick and that im trying to get a job, but no one is hiring and i dont really think i can do that much, will all the problems i have.this forum is the only place were i feel understood and im able to vent and share how i feel and not get treated like a liar or like im making it up. This is not a joke. ive been getting yelled at constantly lately to get a job or for something i didnt do. i cant handle it, my anxiety kicks in, then the gerd then my breathing, i try to defend myself but i really dont have the energy to do it. Im trying to stay strong, but its really hard when i live with family that treat me like this. thanks for the support, i really need it right now:(
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