I HATE WHEN THIS HAPPENS!!!!

When I hear that something happened to someone, then I can't stop obsessing about what if it happens to me. I never hear pregnancy or labor and delivery stories until I'm pregnant myself. Now twice I've heard about AFE...which is when the ambniotic fluid enters the bloodstream causing an embolism. Its rare but the mortality rate is high. I've been worrying about problems since the beginning of my pregnancy but I think this is the scariest. I'm due any day now and its no way I can even handle labor if I'm anxious about something going wrong. I already can't imagine us having a third child which makes me wonder "why do I keep feeling like I can't imagine this big change in my life?" Is it because its not gonna happen? I always think that way about things that are gonna change my life. Then I worry that maybe I just can forsee it happening because somethings gonna stop it from happening (hope I'm making sense). I'm just sitting here scaring the crap out of myself. Does anyone else go through this type of self sabotage???

Hi NB...the day is almost here! I am so proud of you, and happy for you!!! You have had a hard time through these months I know, but you are doing great, and everything is going to be fine!

I was totally getting your thought process btw. It is like you have been in my head! I can completely relate, as my brain has worked (and still tries to sometimes) this way.

Magical thinking is a term used in the psych world to describe the experience you described. It is the fear/belief that the things that we think or feel, will 'magically' come to be reality. Just reading these words should help you to see how unrealistic the probability of this happening is! I know that it is hard to fight though. At the height of my anxiety and health worry, I couldn't even be in a conversation if it touched on disease or sickness.

We have to remember though that worrying about something does not make it happen...it just doesn't. If it did, I would immediately start worrying about becoming a millionaire...and you should too;)

You are going to have an uncomplicated delivery of a beautiful baby! You have done it twice before, and things went smoothly. Use your CBT, positive mantras, breathing and relaxation exercises, and all of the great advice that Shanny shared:)

Let us know how it is going soon!
S.C.

Hi nelle, that is fabulous a little boy, and you got to see his little face before he is born wow that is amazing!!...and don't apologize for not logging in your getting on with life and preparing for your little ones arrival..perfectly natural..

Gosh in my day we didn't know what we were having, boy or girl...believe me my boys went home from hospital dressed in their sisters baby dresses...ooops better not let them know that I will never hear the end of it...lol

Ok well your going to do great I know, have a great delivery and I know everything will be ok...your doing so much better I can tell by your post .hugs to you and your little one..I'm so excited now...Shannon xxxxxxx