Nervous around people

Atuman

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Joined : Aug 2011

Posts : 1

Posted 8/17/2011 8:13 PM (GMT 0)

I have been struggling with anxiety for the past few years and it seems to be getting worse. I used to be very open/trusting/relaxed with people until the past 2 years. I used to be a server at a restaurant and i noticed my nervousness around people got worse table by table. I currently don't work and have no friends because i can't get over the anxiety i feel when i am around ANYONE. The only person i feel comfortable with is my wonderful boyfriend. I even have days where I am not comfortable around him (i live with him). I am no longer comfortable around my family. i constantly feel awkward (even tho i am not) when i am around others and can't seem to find the right words anymore. I used to have random conversations with people on the internet without worry but now I am getting anxious just writing this blog. I was wondering if anyone had advice for how to deal with this nervousness or even rid of it completely.

Scaredy Cat

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Joined : Sep 2006

Posts : 28868

Posted 8/17/2011 9:33 PM (GMT 0)

Hi Atuman and welcome. I am sorry that you are feeling uncomfortable with people at the moment. This is a fairly common form of aniexty known as social anxiety, and can range from shyness, to being unable to socialize with out extreme discomfort.

There is help in the form of therapy for this. You can get a referral from your doctor, or if that's not possible, check out our Anxiety Resouce Guide. We have links to two free on-line sites that can help you through this tough time.

Also keep talking here with us, as you gain confidence, you can add more face to face social interactions back into your routine. Try to remember that a good listener is a great friend...you don't always have to be the talker. An observer/listener is often the coolest person in the group:)

Take care and again welcome!
Scaredy Cat

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