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Posted 12/10/2011 9:15 PM (GMT 0)
 Could someone out there please convince my that my mind is controlling my body.  I am a trembling mess at this moment.  I have bad health anxiety and am under a lot of stress due to myhusband's health.  Today is so bad, I have diarrhea, headache and feel ike I could explode.  If I could just control what is going on with myself, but I can't.  I keep thinking that the digestive issues are caused by some terrible disease and I know that my thinking is causing the problems.The stress is so bad that my hair is even thinning, which makes another stressor worrying about that.  I sometimes think that I just can't deal with everything else anymore.  I will add that a relative has started trying to butt into our lives and my husband wonn't due anything about it.I take .05 Xanax twice a day.  Have for years.

Just need some reassurance and someone who understands what this horrible thing does to you.

Posted 12/10/2011 10:38 PM (GMT 0)
It sounds like you are having a tough time so I'm glad you are reaching out for support. I am sorry to hear a relative is getting in the middle of your lives. If your husband can't say anything to this person then I would suggest you be assertive and tell this person you understand they mean well but they are interferring in your life and you need to set some boundaries with this person.
I noticed that when my mindset changed about literally most aspects of my life, my life improved. Let me preface that by saying that a change in mindset isn't done over night, and is easier said then done.
My mind likes to try to go back to stupid thinking but I practice very hard and not letting anxiety take over.
The mind is a very important feature in helping you take control of anxiety the right way. Breathing exercises are considered to be one of the most effective approaches in dealing with the problem. Also meditation is a proven method of learning how to deal with anxiety.
Please check out our resources thread at the top of the page. Lots of good ideas in the 3rd thread down.
Keep on talking with us and know we care.
Kitt
Posted 12/10/2011 11:15 PM (GMT 0)
It so often feels as if we are on the edge and we are going to fall off the cliff at any moment, i feel like that a lot!! Health anxiety is the worst and worrying just makes your body react with the stomach aches, headaches, diarrhea,ect.. As far as the family member goes, you can't let them effect your lives, you just can't let them have that power over you, so much so that it is making you sick and upset. I finally got to the point where people who were causing me stress were no longer welcome in my life..period!! I don't have time to deal with that aggravation and you don't need it either.

As far as your digestive issues, they are most likely due to your stress and anxiety, the two go hand in hand often and you can't have a calm body if you don't have a calm mind. Stop trying to please everyone, think about yourself for at least 30 minutes a day if you can, take a walk, a bath, read, something for you and only you. It helps plenty I will tell you that. I don't know what is wrong with your husband but I am sure that is adding to your stress as well. Don't be afraid to ask for help if you need it, we get so use to trying to be strong and to do it all and we end up a mess instead.
Posted 12/10/2011 11:28 PM (GMT 0)
Thank both of you for responding.  It helps so much to be able to come to this forum.  The relative is my husbands and if I say anything to him my husband would get really angry with me.  Other family members avoid this person like the plague so it isn't just me that they drive up a wall.  My husbands health is declining so quickly and he is in denial about what is going on.  My stress level is so bad that I can't eat and feel like my heart will jump out of my chest.  I just don't know what to do other than dig a hole and jump in.
Posted 12/10/2011 11:49 PM (GMT 0)
What is wrong with your husband if you don't mind me asking? That sounds extremely stressful and I am like you, I can't eat when I am stressed out.
The only thing you can do is to hold on, and take life as it comes. Life isn't always easy, not even close but what is the alternative? It does seem so hard sometimes but good days will come, they really will, it just doesn't seem like it now.
I have finally come to the realization that I can't control life and the situations in it and we will make it through, we really will. Just hold on and know you can do this, you are stronger than you know.
Posted 12/10/2011 11:50 PM (GMT 0)
Hang on AA, Things will get better. They may get worse first but do seek out friends and family to support you.

No digging holes and jumping in as that will not be the cure all. Talking about your problems with people that understand is where it should be at for you right now.

Your burdens are heavy so let us help you with the weight of these burdens and perhaps we can lighten the load for you.

Gentle Hugs,
Kitt
Posted 12/11/2011 12:04 AM (GMT 0)
You are so right Kitt, this forum has made a world of difference for me and many others. To know we are not alone, there are others going through what we are and sometimes worse. I wish I had "real" friends like this, life would be so much easier.
Posted 12/11/2011 12:08 AM (GMT 0)
God bless both of you.  Your last posts made me cry.  My husband has uncontrolled diabettes.  It is affecting him really bad lately.  He is not himself at times.  I am so afraid of losing him.  I know that I can't control the future but knowing what can happen scares me so badly.
Posted 12/11/2011 12:17 AM (GMT 0)
My husband also has diabetes AA, and it is a scary thing. Take care of both of you to the best of your ability. Encourage him to do the right things to keep his BGLs as level as possible, and keep his doctor's appointment and advice. There is so much that can be done for those with diabetes now, so keep up hope.:)

I hope that you can get to a more relaxed state, and that your symptoms subside soon.

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers! Let us know how you are doing soon okay?

S.C.
Posted 12/11/2011 1:05 AM (GMT 0)
Thank all of you so very much for your words of encouragement.  You don't know how much better you have helped me feel this evening.  Wish I had friends like you.  I love all of you for your kindness and understanding.

Annie

Posted 12/11/2011 1:09 AM (GMT 0)
You do have friends like us! ;)...but I know what you mean...someone a little closer right? But that is why this is a great place to stay connected...so keep posting!

S.C.
Posted 12/13/2011 12:57 AM (GMT 0)
Thought I would give you an update.  The relative pushed the wrong button with my husband and my hubby told him in a nice way that he didn't have time for him.  Didn't think this would ever happen but both of us are feeling much better.  Anxiety level much better.

Bless all.

Posted 12/13/2011 2:00 AM (GMT 0)
:-)   :-) Good news for you!  I am glad that this has brought your stress level down! :-) :-)

Thanks for the update...

Talk to you soon,

S.C.

Posted 12/13/2011 2:37 AM (GMT 0)
Sometimes you have to do what you have to in order to save yourself and your sanity. If they are bringing stress in to your life and not contributing one bit to the quality of it then sometimes you have to say goodbye, not forever, but until you are ready for it if you choose to. Needless to say, I am happy for you and hopefully things will get better now.
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