Fear of loved ones getting hurt or worse

OI'm new here, but not new to anxiety. Even as a kid I remember having this feeling of something bad happening when my parents were not home on time. I was doing OK for years, then we started having financial trouble, then one of our dogs got severe pneumonia and we tried to save him, but had to put him to sleep. Then my husband retina detached and he had surgery. My car was repossessions, we were almost evicted, then our parents saved the car and apartment and car. Then 6 weeks after 1 dog died we had to put our other dog to sleep. I can't seem to get over their loss. We have an adorable kitten now, who I olive. Right now my son has our car to go meet his grandma about 45 minutes away. I'm and sitting sick to my stomach and nervous because he is not answering his phone. I'm panicked that he's had an accident, but I know if he didn't make it his grandma would call. He's 19, I need to quit worrying like this. I do the same if I can't get whole of my husband or parents. I justneed to get this out and over.
Pat
Anxiety, depression, asthma, diabetes, neuropathy

codybear

Hello and welcome to HealingWell.  I have been through exactly what you are experiencing and it is known as anticipatory anxiety.  Anticipatory anxiety is where a person experiences increased levels of anxiety by thinking about an event or situation in the future. The worries you experience specifically focus on what you think might happen, often with catastrophic predictions about the event.

When you find yourself caught up in anticipatory anxiety Stop ! Take a deep breath; breathe in through the nose, hold the air in your lungs for a count of four, then slowly let the air out through the mouth.  While you are doing this, consider the possibility that you are being unrelaistic and irrational.  Focus on positive or neutral outcomes. This is a simple relaxation technique and I use it often.

Again a warm welcome and I hope you stick with us as we are here to support and share with you.