New Therapist....

Hey Guys,

For the first time in a while, I started seeing a therapist. Only
have went a few times. This time I told myself that I would give
the person a chance but see if they are a good fit.

The bottom line is they had some good advice but came away
feeling somewhat creeped out, feeing like I'm telling my intimate
thoughts to some stranger.

Can any of you relate to talking to someone and just getting
negative energy from them? They sit there, arms folded, with
almost a pained expression - when I'm speaking and after I
leave, I feel worse for the experience.

Now, I'm going through a tough time and that may make me
project that on to them but after thinking about it that's not
the case. Even wished them well on a project they had spoke
of and their response was off putting.

It's almost like ( although they say otherwise) I get the feeling
of being judged.

Maybe that's why they have such an open schedule because I'm
sure others have picked up on this.

Can anyone relate , or have advice. Thanks

hi ghosst,

i have had both good and bad therapists. it is hard to know sometimes if it is just my attitude or it is them. it's hard to talk about intimate things with a therapist.

one thing you might try is to talk to the therapist about how you feel about talking to them. sometimes this opens things up.

if you go to another session or two, you will probably know if there is any hope for a good psychotherapeutic fit.

the other thing to remember is that sometimes it takes several sessions before you can tell how things will work out. and you don't have to tell them your most intimate thoughts if it does not feel right.

i wish you good luck! anyone in therapy should have a therapist they can trust and feel comfortable with.

Thank you guys for your responses. I have seen this individual
three times, so I feel I have enough experience with them.
One thing I did make clear was what I was looking for - and
the response and attitude(in general) left something lacking.
S.C while I did have a negative experience with previous test.,
this is the first time I have actively sought one out and tried to
choose wisely, but the one reviewed well had no openings so this
one was open(could not find any review) so I figured I would give
it a shot. Besides the last, I have limited experience with seeing
someone, but like I said ,I know what to look for and unlike last
time have an agenda.

I just get a general sense of a lack of empathy. Not that I want
someone to spill there guts with me, but you can tell when someone cares a bit , even on a professional level.

More people should leave reviews(I know people can have different opinions),as they still help you select the right one.
Relating to that, the last one I saw had received negative
reviews, and if I had seen, would never had went to.

S.C- yes I think there's something to their being so available.
This one called me twice within an hour of my initial contact.

Unless you have some reference, it's a crapshoot.