help for my brother

belleadonna

Regular Member

Joined : Jan 2012

Posts : 231

Posted 12/21/2012 12:42 PM (GMT 0)

Hi everyone. I am hoping to get a bit of advice especially from any guys on the board.
I'm sure my brother has anxiety. i know the signs first hand and I think it affects his life but he won't talk about it and won't got to the dr. to get assessed, which of course means no meds. He hates going to the dr. and taking pills. I think he has a 'real men don't need drs./take meds/should show weakness' kind of attitude which is reinforced by his mates.
I only get to see him maybe once a year as we live in different states and neither of us have cars so we don't get to visit each other. He's coming up with my mum for christmas tomorrow so I can have a good face to face chat with him.
What can I say and do to convince him to at least talk to a dr about things?
any advice?
Merry christmas
Belle

Scaredy Cat

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Joined : Sep 2006

Posts : 28868

Posted 12/21/2012 3:47 PM (GMT 0)

Hi B.D.:)

I am sorrry to hear about your brother's possible struggle with anxiety.

I am not a guy, but I know that it is sometimes harder for them to break down the stigma of the 'tough guy's don't get anxiety' thing...

Is there anyway that you could direct him here, or to another forum for A/P? He may be more apt to take this first step, then to go to the doctor right off.

I do hope that you hear from some of your male posters soon, and best wishes with having that talk. I am sure it will go well, as he will realize that anything you do, you do out of love and concern for him.:)

S.C.

belleadonna

Regular Member

Joined : Jan 2012

Posts : 231

Posted 12/22/2012 9:32 AM (GMT 0)

Thanks SC
I am going to tell him about this site and that it has helped me. I'd be happy if he would just stop self medicating with alcohol and cigarettes. I wouldn't be surprised if there was depression as well. I think he has a lot of stuff he hasn't dealt with starting with loosing one of his best friends when they were just 10/11 to cancer. It was a hard time and there have been other losses as the years have gone on including our father and grandfather.
I'm planning on spending some quality time with him this holidays including bowling which we both used to enjoy when we were kids.

take care
Belle

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