Posted 3/25/2013 7:58 PM (GMT 0)
Hello, I'm new to the site but I felt like this would be a great place to get advice on the best ways to help my boyfriend through these issues he's having.
I met my now-boyfriend, in August of 2012. I actually had another boyfriend at the time but was instantly attracted to him physically & mentally. The previous relationship ended & soon thereafter, I began dating my now-boyfriend in December. I will refer to him as "babe".
Babe and I have an absolutely amazing relationship. I knew I loved him very quickly & I can easily say that I could picture myself ending up with a guy like him. He's everything to me. However, a few days ago, he had some kind of mental shift change. He had been his happy-go-lucky self, laughing and making jokes and being the guy I fell in love with. But then he turned into a sad, depressed, scared, mood-swinging alter-ego of the man I fell for.
He and I have been talking about this every single day & I've tried to be nothing but supportive and strong. He had anxiety issues when he was younger but he says he hasn't ever had issues like this. He has frequent panic attacks & constant doubts about every aspect of his life, but he seems fixated on our relationship at the forefront of his fears. He says he's scared of losing me but that we found each other too young (we're 20); he also has major self-esteem issues and literally hates himself. I try to be assuring and affirming but I feel like I'm making the amount of pressure on him worse :(
He's a college student, employee, son, brother, and boyfriend. He's now seeing a counselor once a week, but I'm scared that he's not going to get better soon and that he's going to push me away because that is what he's done with every other person he's been with. Sorry for the novel, but can someone please help??
Sincerely,
Worried & Numb.