Depression/anxiety meds and no weight loss with exercise

Wow, firstly, I want to say good job supporting your wife! Many members here feel very alienated by their families in these issues.

So, nice to meet you and kudos!

My advice regarding the weight loss issue will be iffy at best, as I'm someone who struggles with my weight, too. I'll share my experience, though. I do have a couple thoughts that may help with the emotional aspect.

There is such a thing as trying too hard. Do you think it's possible that she's overdoing it?
Also, watching how much you eat can be ineffective sometimes if you're not following a specific plan - you can do that too much, too.
If it is feasible, she might find meeting with a trainer a couple of times helpful. They are trained in dealing with people who have difficulty losing.
As far as diet, there are a lot of options out there. Her doctor might even be able to help. I had a lot of success losing weight on the weight watchers plan. The first two weeks, I was told, "You're not eating enough! Eat ALL your points!"
Even if she doesn't want to enroll, http://www.exercise4weightloss.com has most of the pertinent information for free.

Some anti-anxiety medications really do make it difficult. I haven't researched it, but I think they're kind of like the anti-diet pill. Diet pills rev your system up, ADs slow it down.

I know she really wants to lose weight, but in the meantime, maybe you could help her focus on the other ways she is benefiting. For example, can she walk longer distances without feeling tired? Does she have increased energy? Is her anxiety lessened following exercise? Has her blood pressure improved? I'm sure there are some tangible benefits you guys can identify.

As far as confidence and self-image, sometimes it's necessary to focus on things more easily controlled. Maybe treat her to a spa day? A new piece of jewelry? Just a little extra TLC of any kind...

Also, here's one idea that I'm going to put all on you. My husband has this ability to make me feel GREAT even when I'm probably not looking my best. After years, I've noticed why, but for a while I was totally unaware. He puts effort into noticing little details and complimenting me. Very specific compliments. Did she paint her nails a new color? French tips maybe? Compliment her manicure. New perfume? Tell her how good she smells.

Something he does that helps with my weight

I can't add much more that what BR has said! Great advice all around.

I agree that the heavy cardio might be overdoing it. Perhaps some less agressive cross training could help...and be more healthy for her.

Three days of brisk walking, alternating on the other days with light weights for building lean muscle mass...which will burn calories even in a resting state.

Aslo, she may have already gained muscle, but lost fat...so I would get a digital scale with the metal pads (where you place your feet) that measures body fat percentage. This, not the actual numbers in pounds on the scale is what counts.:)

Best of luck to both of you. You are both welcome to post with us anytime!

Scaredy Cat