Relationship anxiety?

Hi everyone, this is my first post-looks like you all have a good supportive community here.

I'm a 27 year old male that comes from a family with a double dose of several anxious/depressed people on both sides. A few of my immediate family are on anxiety/depression meds and I'm basically trying to get a feel for if its the right time to look into it, although I know no one can tell me that without knowing me, really.

So here's the deal. I'm dating a girl with a really good heart and we've been dating for 8 months and Id say 6 of them have been rough. One big factor is that we are living 4 hours apart. Long distance leaves a lot of room for anxiety inducing things to creep in. There are other "warning signs" that we may not be right for each other too, though. I'm much more intellectual than her, she is t stupid but I sometimes have to explain what I mean to her in simpler terms to feel like she understands me - that kind of thing. Being a "simpler" person I find it difficult to relate about how I think "deeply" about things while she flits happily on the surface.

So some of our issues are legit issues, but I've run away from girls before because I've wondered if there wasn't a more perfect person out there and I want to be sure that I'm not SUPER focusing on these negative things and letting them ruin what could be a potentially healthy relationship.

In short, I think that some of my concerns for our compatibility are valid concerns, but when I'm not freaking out in the moment and look back on it I often wonder why it freaks me out to the degree that it does. I'm talking about rocking myself in place, crying and telling at her that SHE JUST DOESN'T GET ME, while she quietly listens and tells me to calm down. I feel like it is her responsibility to "fix" these problems (like her annoying habits that probably shouldn't annoy me to the degree that they do) and I just want to make sure that the problem isn't me.

I can't stop thinking and worrying that she may not be the one to the point that she basically has no opportunity to be the one in the first place, and that doesn't seem fair.

Before her I had a couple of panic attacks and very mild anxiety, usually first thing in the morning, that dissipated after a few minutes. Now that I'm in this relationship - that has become a stressful situation, I am anxious every day wondering if I should listen to my fear or push on and try to give her a chance because I see that she is a good woman.

I don't feel like we have any chance because I can't escape these negative, anxiety inducing thoughts - so really the only chance I have left to extend to the relationship is to talk to a dr and see if my anxiety is distorting my perception of the situation or if I'm healthy and just need to listen to my gut.

Is it possible that my inability to turn my brain off when negative thoughts about us come to mind is a sign of disorder? How do I know if its time to talk to a dr about it?

Hi Panda, I totally agree with Scaredy Cat but have a perspective from a man's view, one of the great
markers of intelligence is being able to make those of lesser gifts understand us and to be able to
communicate clearly with people of lesser education and intellect. The other thing is Her understanding
it's impossible for anyone without PAD to understand exactly what we go through, some of us are lucky
and have found someone with a truly understanding heart, they also care. The last thing I see here aside from all the things you have already pointed out is that you do need to see a medical professional and
try to control your PAD symptoms for yourself and Her. I wish you Peace.

Larry ***