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Posted 9/19/2013 12:39 AM (GMT 0)
My boss pulled me in at the end of the day and informed me that my body language has been overly anxious this week. She said she hadn't wanted to say anything because I always just tell her that I'm fine, and it hasn't impeded my work. She just wanted to know what she could do to help because I looked tired and appear to have lost weight. I didn't know what to tell her - I am tired and I do frequently forget to eat. I kind of got emotional and just asked if, instead of asking me if I'm alright, she could tell me that I am alright. Everything inside of me is telling me that I'm failing, even though I have physical evidence that I'm not. Maybe some positive reinforcement from the boss could help bring down my anxiety levels? I really I don't like being noticed, and I hate crying. I do appreciate her concern and I really do have the best boss ever. I just wish I didn't have anything for her to be concerned about.
Posted 9/19/2013 1:07 AM (GMT 0)
If She really wants to know what is going on with you invite her to come here and read the various posts,
I don't think You have ever said anything that would offend her, She sounds like a rare and wonderful
person to work for, count your Blessings! Peace

Larry ***
Posted 9/19/2013 4:33 AM (GMT 0)
If you are getting to the point crying in your work i would advise some time off, i came to the point as soon as i say in my chair at work i would need to hold in a cry i would get chest pains and start to feel like i was hyperventalating. i was unwell and couldnt see it i tryed to carry on for so long.. taking a few weeks off work played a massive part in my recovery.. take the time off your health comes first.. even if its just a few days
Jenna
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Posted 9/19/2013 7:05 AM (GMT 0)
I wouldn't worry too much about crying in that particular situation.

If she had noticed you being upset, was worried about you, and was offering help, I'm pretty sure she was prepared for you to show emotion.

You might print out a fact sheet on anxiety disorders and give to her, if you think she didn't truly understand and needs to.

All of that said, you sound like you're having a pretty rough time. I'm sorry to hear that. If it's reached the point of having trouble eating, it may be time to talk to your doctor/therapist. Putting in for a little vacation time, if you have it, might not be a bad idea, either. :)

Best of luck to you! Hugs!
Posted 9/19/2013 2:49 PM (GMT 0)
Great advice by all...I just want to add my support.

I used to come undone when someone would ask me if I was allright, or noticed my anxiety.

It scared me that they somehow knew or saw something that I didn't..."Can they tell that there is something really wrong with me like I suspect?!?' This was my line of thinking.

However, I know now that it was just my anxiety (again) making me think this way. I can see, looking back that it was simple concern for me because I wasn't acting myself of course.

Your boss sounds pretty nice, and in tune with employees. That is great, and should help you to get throught this time.

We are here for you and will listen and be around anytime to tell you that, yes, you are allright!

Hugs,

S.C.
Posted 9/19/2013 3:04 PM (GMT 0)
I have told my entire work that I have relapsed into anxiety and depression. I work with all women, who are very compassionate. They always ask me how I am and I tell them the truth, rather than hide it. I too have had the comments from clients about my weight loss, and the fact that I look tired, or my hair isn't fancy etc...(I'm an esthetician so we have to look funky) I even had a client comment on my shaky hands! All of my staff have said that they could never tell that I was anxious, or feeling bad, unless I told them when they asked. I sincerely hope things get better for you!! Peace, Lisa
Posted 9/20/2013 1:56 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks everyone. I really am fine. I have an amazing boss, and she knows all about my anxiety issues; I was put on administrative leave in May and was not allowed back to work until cleared by my doctor, so she knows more than she needs to. She has actually been more of a mom than a boss since then, which can be annoying sometimes. My boss and my friends keep telling me to just take a day off, but I would be sitting at home worrying about everything I wasn't doing at work and that doesn't sound beneficial. I am attending a conference tomorrow, so maybe that will help calm my system while I just sit and listen.
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