Pregnant and anxious and depressed

Hello everybody...its been a while and now I am 11 weeks pregnant, due to this I had to stop my medication...my situation is really hard right now...went through divorce, dealing with family who are upset at my pregnancy and judgemental comments...to top it off at work has been a chaos.,.all of this and I ve been having anxiety attacks, I cam hardly sleep and I cry for no reason and feel so sad most of the day...my dr tells me it is one due to my hormones and second my aituation....worst is that everybody that I tell this to...they just tell me, to be strong and that is normal!!!. I feel so lonely and desperate and at the same time...I dont know what to do...my dr also suggested that if I continue like this I will be put in meds again...and to exrcise meanwhile...will it be safe for my baby?

Cln, I know that this may seem like empty words from an old man but I truly feel for you and the situation you are in. Sometimes I wonder why people just don't keep quiet if they have nothing to say that is positive. You are joining a group of people who are the worlds greatest, Mothers! You are Special!

My Daughter was allowed to keep taking ativan up until the last weeks, all her children were ok! Peace

Larry ***

When are you scheduled to go back? Actually, after the initial first day back anticipation/anxiety...you might find it a good distraction. I know that a break in my regular schedule (too much time off) can cause me anxiety...so getting back to work really helps me.:)

Keep posting...we are here!

S.C.

What mistake was that? I see you taking steps to make a better life for yourself and your children...

...if that is a mistake, then...hmmm.

I think that you may need to turn a deaf ear to those who can't seem to say anything encouraging, and surround yourself with supportive people.:)

We are cheering you on always!

S.C.

"You made a mistake, accept it" must sound an awful lot like "this is all your fault!"

I'm sorry that you're being treated that way - you don't deserve it.

You know what I think you need to accept? I think you need to accept that you're a strong, beautiful person, who is doing everything she can to get through a difficult situation in life.

What the people who are telling you these things need to accept is that sometimes in life, difficult situations occur and there is no "bad guy" or "villian" to blame.

I hope they're not referring to your baby as a mistake. Every new life coming into this world is a thing of beauty. The circumstances of their conception nor the timing of their birth is a part of who they are.

I know this time must be very hard for you - I'm sending you huge cyber ((((((HUGS))))))))!!!!

You're going to make it through this. Keep in communication with your doctor about options for your anxiety and depression. Have you ever tried therapy? And like others have said, there are some safe options for pregnancy, medicinally.

Really, in the end, this is one of those episodes that will be a part of the even stronger woman you're destined to become.

When your child learns the story of what you've gone through now, they'll appreciate it at least a little. When they hold their first child, they'll understand more fully how much love you have them by fighting this battle.

In the meantime, I hope we here can be your support team!

Hugs!
Joy

Hi Cln

Our baby was just born a few weeks ago and I had about 9 months of roller-coaster anxiety. I felt worried, sad, confused, upset mostly in the beginning and was experiencing a lot of anxiety problems also compounded by a trying situation at work. I don't know if its normal or not to have all these anxious feelings, I think everybody does to some extent perahps we have them more than others or the intensity of our feelings is greater? I'm not quite sure.

In any event I found that therapy as well as self-help CBT resources really helped me quite a bit. Xanax did too every now and then in the beginning.

Running up very close to the arrival of our baby its like the anxiety almost washed away, when I realized this was going to be a new and interesting experience in life and that it was too late to do anything about now and that I'd better get my act together.

After she arrived, I remember waking up from a cat nap hearing her crying with a stupid ole smile on my face, and realized that was the first time in a long while where I woke up and didn't check how I was feeling, or didn't wake up and at least think about anxiety. I woke up dumb and happy.

My wife's pregnancy, combined with a lot of other life issues at the same time, took me on a massive anxiety ride. Again, its probably not the norm but just a little encouragement from a guy who's been through something similar emotionally.

Joshua