i feel bad :(

Hello friends

Some of you (to name a few s.c., Larry, kitt) that I separated from my wife early last yr. One of the things that I did last yr was to overspend on partying mostly. I guess it was my way of cooing and letting d beasts out. Entering the year that was one of my priorities, to tone down on d partying and to spend less. I have been relatively successful except last Friday when I went all out w my spending again. I felt and still feel bad about it. I have tried to calm myself down and not be hard on myself knowing how counter productive that is. I know this relatively a small issue compared to others yet I wanted to share it in d forum because I needed to get this out of my chest and not fear being judged. Thanks

groverpower,

Good Morning and Happy New Year.  Your goal for 2014 is a good one and like most of us goals are great but nearly all of us have a lapse and then we feel bad about ourselves.

"Always, we begin again," St. Benedict famously said.

One thing that may help is substituting something else for the spending.  Get passionate about something new.  Remember it takes time to break a habit or make a change.  The old saying was it take 21 days to change a habit, however new statistics now quotes - 66 days.  I think this is unique to each person.

I will share with you that I have made spending a habit since I learned I had cancer and would need to be on chemo for life.  I am now trying to cut back and it is not easy once you get into the habit and it has become a coping mechanism.

You have my support and as always, keep talking with us as we are here to help you in any way we can.

Gentle Hugs,

Kitt

 

GP.,

The fact that you are feeling regret about things in the past, shows that you are healing and ready to move on.

Keep looking forward, and know that you are stonger and wiser than ever at this point in time.

We are here to support and cheer you on always.:)

S.C.

thanks Scaredy and weary. do appreciate your kind words and support always.

Complete and total ^^ditto^^.

One of the many reasons I am particularly fond of this forum is that we acknowledge we're all human, and with that means that we'll trip and stumble, and even take steps back every now and again.

But the HW Family recognizes this, especially since pretty much all of us have been on that roller coaster ride ourselves, (and many of us are still on it,....even if we're on smaller versions of it than when we started out!)

This is a safe place to "be human," (can't think of the right words)....no judgment, just know that together, all of the members create a supportive safety net that helps to catch us when we fall, and helps to give us a leg up when we're ready to try again, (however many tries that may take).

No one gets it right the first time. We know that, and we know what it's like to be the one falling, and the one catching. So you're safe here, and no matter what, we shall be here for you! I've found this out for myself during some particularly painful and stressful times.....when you reach out for the help you want, I've seen it myself, they're there to guide you!

Remember too, that S.C. and Kitt have halos and wings! :)

All together, they assist in guiding a very helpful and supportive group of people that truly are here for you!




M.