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Posted 2/6/2014 10:58 AM (GMT 0)
I have been living with phobias/anxiety for 9 years now I am 26 have 2 step children and a 6 year old son. Over time I have gotten worse I feel so lonely I can't drive any where on my own I can't stay at home by my self I have to have an adult with me. My partner is not that understanding though sometimes he can be. I feel like running away most days i feel like such a child I see a councilor once a week it has helped me with some of my small phobias but I feel like I am never going to be able to stay home by myself go food shopping on my own like a normal person I feel so lost and lonely ......

Edit:  I gave your post a title

Post Edited By Moderator (stkitt) : 2/6/2014 6:57:43 AM (GMT-7)

Posted 2/6/2014 2:01 PM (GMT 0)
Tami, Welcome to HealingWell   and the A & P Forum . This is the place to come if you have questions or concerns about anxiety/panic, related medications and their side effects and recovery. Some of our members have been living with anxiety and related disorders for years, while others are new to this disorder.   I'm sorry that your anxiety is so bad and really affecting you in a negative way. It's hard to try to deal with this on your own. Certain therapies, like Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy can usually be really beneficial for GAD and other anxiety disorders. Support groups online like this one can be a tremendous help as everyone here understands where you are coming from and what you are going through. I know you will be hearing from many of our members so trust we will do our best to help you.
Posted 2/6/2014 3:20 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you still new so not sure how it all works . I hope so I can chat to people with similar issues I feel so alone and suffocated by my anxiety !! Every option I feel I have I have a phobia or anxiety about. I just want to be able to do normal things mums do.
Posted 2/6/2014 6:21 PM (GMT 0)
Hello and welcome!

I am sorry to hear of your anxiety issues, and the obstacles that they have caused in your everyday routine...

...however, the good new is that you are seeking therapy, and are working on treating and managing the things that challenge you.

How long have you been seeing your counselor?  It can take time to find relief from the phobias and anxiety that plague us...but sticking to your program and being patient with yourself and the process will pay off.

Self-help is something that you may also want to look into.  I found this to be very helpful in combination with my therapy sessions.

Here is a link to our Resources that is filled with good ideas:

https://www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=9&m=104206

Check out the site links, filled with great coping skills.  There are also book recommendations and on-line therapy options.  The CBT/therapy downloadable worksheets are awesome, and something that may be of real value to you.  There are specific pages for phobias and anxiety concerns that include help within the whole anxiety spectrum.

Keep posting with us as well.  As Kitt mentioned, support is key!

Scaredy Cat

Posted 2/6/2014 10:49 PM (GMT 0)
I have been seeing my councilor for about 10months.
It's also hard for my partner he can be good but then it all gets to him and he just exploads about it he thinks that just making things up in my head he doesn't get it. I have tryed giving him things to read talking to him but he tells me that he will never understand. I'm just having one of those weeks where it's depressing me about the way I am. My partner works night shift so he needs his sleep, he has to take me to my app the shops ect cause I can't drive on my own it makes me sick thinking about it I don't know how people can do it ?!
Posted 2/7/2014 9:50 PM (GMT 0)
Tami,

Keep up hope that the work you are doing in therapy is going to help.

Also, working on a self-help program alongside what you are doing with your counselor, could really be key in getting ahead in your progress.

We have a lot of great things in the Resources here, or I would be happy to recommend more ideas if you are interested.

Keep posting here as well. We all benefit from support and understanding! My husband is not exactly able to relate and comfort me either...so that is why I find this forum so important to my recovery!

Talk to you soon,

S.C.
Posted 2/8/2014 1:00 PM (GMT 0)
What sort of self help programs are there? I really would love to try group sessions though not sure where to find them. Thank you for your reply. Am having a better day. Still have along way to go! Just feel like the rest of my life is going to be a struggle to keep my anxiety/phobias/depression away once I am better !?
Posted 2/9/2014 3:48 PM (GMT 0)
For starters, check out all that is in the link I posted above.

There are CBT/therapy worksheet downloads, informative sites for coping skills, book recommendations and even on-line therapy options.

I also checked out just about every book in my local library and took from each all that applied to my situation and needs. I essentially made my own self-help program.:)

There are C.D's and DVD's that you can buy, however, they can be costly. Lucinda Bassett's is one that has been around for a long time, and has good reviews.

Group therapy is a great alternative to one-on-one. (or in addtion to?) You could ask your GP to look for some in your area, or possibly check out NAMI's website for more information.

Keep striving to find what is going to be of help to you. It is somewhat about trying a lot of different things, and narrowing it down...so it takes time and patience, but it is worth it once you start to see the recovery starting.;)

Keep posting with us!

S.C.
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