Thinking About It

This is what I need to figure out as well myself, Soul. I find it funny that I never had anxiety until I was a stay at home mom. ((I worked the whole time after I graduated till up to 6-7 years ago)). Which interestingly enough is around the time I started my anxiety problems.

But if your employer knows you have problems related to this, they should work with you. In my opinion at least. Used to take their employees serious. Now they see most of the work force as just numbers. *Grumbles* I don't think I can work anymore seriously. Considering I can't even go into a restuarant most days without having problems.

But do what's comfortable for YOU! I haven't applied for SSI, when my family probably could have used it before I feel bad and am trying to get better enough to work, but sometimes, we all do need help to get to where we need to be. And sometimes, we need someone to help us stand on our own two feet. And most importantly, don't feel bad for needing the help. Which is what I need to remember as well, most of all.

I think,-- as unfair as this may come across, -- something we need to accept is that our employers are under no obligation to "be there for us." They hired us to fill a position, to do a job, to be efficient and functional, fit for duty, and to be present a certain number of hours each week.

For the rare few who happen to be fortunate enough to have employers who are willing to work with you, please thank God and realize how extremely fortunate you are.

Most employers cannot afford to have their workers out of work, to be unpredictable, to require special circumstances that cannot be extended to the rest of the work staff....our bosses cannot afford to hold our hands or have other staff hold our hands.

I do not mean for this to sound cruel. But the point in fact is that in the world of business, we really are numbers. It's what we produce, it's what assets we provide for our company, it's what we contribute.

If we are in constant need of time off and special attention, please think of the situation the boss is in when trying to run a business. It's nothing personal, it's business. Cut and dry.

It's extraordinary if we happen to have one of those bosses, or group of co-workers, who have the flexibility, desire, interest, and ability to help us. But we truly cannot expect or demand this of our employers.

In my opinion, if you love your job, perhaps the best thing to do is to speak honestly with your boss, and perhaps there can be a change made in your duties, what shift your work, or how maybe a cut in your work hours to something more sustainable.

I do realize this is hard to swallow. Business is about the numbers, and that bottom line and employee function, will always feed into how decisions are made.




M.