new job today started freaking out yesterday before I even started why?

Hazel,

How did your first day go? How did you feel, and how do you feel now?

I don't think I know of anyone who doesn't feel incredibly nervous the first day they start a new job! It's sort of like a first date.

Sooooo? How'd it go? :)



M.

HN,

Deep breaths...you are going through a lot right now! Let take inventory.

First you felt the shock and loss of your job...then you were dealing with uncertainties about the future, and finding a new job!

Then you were facing anticpatory anxiety about starting the new position. You did well while you were there, because you are a pro, and able to comparmentalize your stress...but once you get off work, it all comes back.

Then, your news about your son's behavior! All of this combined is enough to make anyone buckle!!

Try your best to accept the anxiety and symptoms...it can just get worse if you 'fight' them in the sense of getting angry and more stressed by them.

Instead fight in a constructive manner by using your coping skills and being patient with yourself and your progress at getting through this trying time.

You are supported and understood here...let us know how day 2 goes, okay?

S.C.

Okay, the more I read, the more I feel you're being put in a precarious and inappropriate situation....not to mention, it's sounding dangerous. I think you know that, too, and your palps may have been your body's way of sending you a message that you needed to get out of there?

These are just my personal ramblings, so if it's me who seems out of line, please forgive me.

So, just my thoughts here, okay? Now, if it were me, and those were the work conditions, I would be very wigged out and I would not feel safe. I am not trying to scare you, but I am hoping your guard is up and that you are being diligent.

If I were asked to stay 20 minutes late, I may understand. Having that turn into 2 hours,--plus the extenuating and personal circumstances that are exuding in the air,-- hun, something just sounds not quite right.

Whether or not you are attracted to lawyers, (or dog groomers, or engineers, or rock climbers), is irrelevant. What is relevant is that this is a work situation, this is supposed to be a professional environment.

I am not trying to make light of his personal/private/professional problems. But it is not fair, nor legitimate, to drag you into those conflicts and impose such an,....(I'm trying so darn hard to be tactful here)...."unusual"....set of circumstances on you. But if he's emotionally unstable, angry, hurt,....and for whatever reason, he's got a weapon in the office he felt compelled to show you,...these do not add up to a safe workplace. (Unless you work for BRINKS and drive an armoured car with cash in the back). Oh heck, even then,....

If you're concerned about your electrolytes,--until you get an answer, drink some Gatorade and eat a banana....but I gently ask that you at least consider taking inventory of this situation.




M.


REASON FOR EDIT: I'm trying to find gentle words....

Hazel the wrong food or too much can contribute to PVC's,
Mirreda is right and looking out for you, "Just make him under
stand that you require a Professional Relationship"! Peace.

Larry ***