Extreme fear of death :-(

Elen

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Joined : Dec 2007

Posts : 67

Posted 5/8/2014 5:22 AM (GMT 0)

Hi all... I've been having panic attacks since 18 yo (now I'm 39), on and off. Now is "off" thankfully. about 6 years ago I developed fear of heights.... I've been always afraid of death, but since my mom passed away 3 years ago it got worse. I have a toddler on hands and I'm pretty happy, he is the best thing happened to me and I'm so grateful... I'm not religious, I don't know what to do with my fear. Especially at night, when everybody is asleep, I'm sitting alone with my thoughts and I can get to extreme anxiety just thinking that I'm going to die. I'm so tired... Unfortunately nothing I can change, I will die anyway. I'm so afraid, I don't know what to do. Are there any books to read? I wish to believe in some kind of eternity... Sorry for confusing post, it is 1.30am and I'm so tired, I need a sleep but my thoughts are driving me crazy and my heart is crying.

mindymaggie

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Joined : Jan 2014

Posts : 207

Posted 5/8/2014 7:26 AM (GMT 0)

dear elen, i m so sorry that you are suffering so badly with your fear of death. this must maake it very hard to enjoy your wonderful toddler who loves you so much. you say that you are not religious, but you also wish to believe in some kind of eternity.firsst, know that you don t have to be "religious" to believe in God. next, just because you don t feel that you know or believe in God, doesn t mean that He doesn t know and believe in you! for me, my children are proof that there is a god. you ask if there are any books that you can read, and there many, i am not allowed, on this forum, to recommend any religious writing over any other. if you really want to learn about eternity and what it means for you and your child, make a hypothetical prayer, challenge God, that, if He is real, can He show you where to find the answers! what have you got to lose? and you just might find peace. blessings

Scaredy Cat

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Joined : Sep 2006

Posts : 28868

Posted 5/8/2014 4:44 PM (GMT 0)

Hi Elen and welcome back!!

We have missed you...but I am so glad to hear that you have had a time of reprieve from the panic attacks!! That is tremendous news!!

I can't believe your little on is now a toddler! ;) I know that you are busy, and happy keeping up with all that energy and joyous activity.:)

However, I also know that being a parent can bring about fears regarding mortality. Afterall, a lot of responsibility rides on our shoulders...and natuarally we worry about being there to fulfill our duties!

Here is a book that is basically on health anxiety, but also covers the fear of dying.

http://www.amazon.com/Overcoming-Health-Anxiety-David-Veale/dp/1845298241

It is from our Resources here. I would also encourage you to check out the updates that have been made there...along with re-visiting some of the tried and true stress relieving coping skills that are recommended there.:)

Keep posting with us...we are glad to hear from you and are here for your support!

S.C.

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