today I cried at work

Hi wearyRAsufferer,

I'm sorry to hear that you had an awful day. I know what it's like for someone to make offensive and patronizing remarks when it applies to my emotional well being and it really hurts. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I'm glad that you have a supportive husband and I hope that you feel better. You are not alone. Not talking about anything negative for 3 days sounds like a great idea.

Hi Weary,
I am sorry for your bad day. You know, I really don't find what your boss said as offensive..I know it depends upon 'how' he said it... Maybe he just didn't know what else to say... I still know how you feel, though. Sometimes the 'other guy' just cannot manage to say the right things! :) But! Things WILL get better. Hang in there. If you hate your job, why don't you consider changing jobs...maybe? I know its easier said than done!
By the way, crying at work is really 'ok' ... maybe if its not like you...maybe you have to be easier on yourself and realize you are a much more sensitive person than you are giving yourself credit for.

many healing compassionate thoughts i send.

Weary, My wish and Prayer for you and Husband is not just 3
days of unspeakable joy, but the rest of your lives, be filled with
love and joy, happy 4th. Peace

Larry ***

WRAS,

Congratulations on taking those steps! You have not only empowered yourself, but have given yourself some freedom of options...whether or not you utimately decide to make a move!

An updated resume is a step towards possibilities...and open doors/opportunities.:)

I am glad that it has brought you some relief to do this. Good move on your part.

Hugs and high fives...and may wisdom be yours in what you need to do next for your health and happiness.:)

S.C.

My frank and honest opinion?

You did outstanding!! For me, one of the things I would look for in an employee is exactly the skill you demonstrated. You did the right thing.

Your qualities: (1) You weathered the storm of management changes, (2) you maintained true to your job as it pertains to the company, regardless of those changes, (3) you conducted yourself in a professional and courteous manner despite being put on the spot, (4) you refused to engage in public debate in front of others when you knew this was a matter best discussed in private, (5) you maintained your professional attitude, (6) you did not make a scene, but that other person did, (7) you're aware enough to realize the company's changing objectives no longer coincide with your own, (8) you're being proactive by immediately looking on Monster.com for another position....

.....(9) you're immediately updating your resume, (10) you're not taking this personally as you realize, as the sole survivor of the initiative of this company, that it's actually the others who have gone off the rails, (11) you recognized that it's okay to take a Xanax and deep breaths and collect yourself, and did not deny yourself this, (12) you took that conversation behind closed doors which is where it belonged, but only you were the "bigger person" who realized that, as discretion, confidence and professionalism are rare and valuable qualities in ANY employee in ANY company,.....

.....(13) you're investigating other job opportunities that may not pay as much, but where your mind may be free enough to be more creative and where your stress levels may be radically reduced, (14) you're again being proactive by realizing you need to get out of the situation as you cannot change the company, but you CAN change yourself and your situation...

You know Toots, I really could go on.....but I think you get the picture? Got it? Got it? Good! :)

I'm very proud of you!










M.

Weary, You conducted yourself with Class, and Authority, stay
what ever course you decide, just don't let the little jerk get
under your skin, I am pulling for You, what ever you decide.

Peace

Larry *