Palmy,I have a wonderful daughter that becomes very anxious when people start sharing their surgery or hospital events - yes even when women sit around discussing the details of birthing. She will step away and go outside or she will ask the person ( if it is one on one) to change the subject.
Remember it is ok to be assertive and ask someone to not share all the "surgery stories" with you.
I have cancer and when someone starts in on so and so that had the same as me and they did this and that .............I tune them out or I change the subject.
When I hear the words, " I know a lady, I know a friend, So and so's Mother's, second cousin's father-in-law from his 4th marriage had the same thing................ I tune them out. No 2 people are the same.
Happy Wednesday to you and smile, you will be OK.
Gentle Hugs,
Kitt