Scared, tired and hopeless

Hi twirlinggypsy,

I know exactly how it feels to feel scared, tired and hopeless, I'm feelings those same feelings so I know how hard it can be and I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I'm glad that you're working with a psychologist right now and you're right when you say it takes time to work because it truly does take time and it takes a lot of patience.

I'm sorry about your step brother and your best friends mother grief can cause a lot of anxiety and depression so it's always good that we get help in dealing with it and you're already doing that so that's a good thing.

People tell you that you will get through this because it's true you will get through this, it's just that when we're going through it and feeling hopeless that's a very powerful feeling and sometimes we kind of give it all the power and believe that there's no hope, trust me I know and sometimes we kind of need someone else to help us see that there is hope. We kind of have to break things down into small steps so we can get that hope back.

I don't think that you will end up like your mother because you are trying to get help, you're going to therapy, you've reached out on this forum and you have a desire to get better and you want to have hope even though you feel like you don't have any. You're taking positive steps to to deal with your anxiety, some people turn t negative ways to treat their emotional problems and that's how some may become addicts. So you are a step ahead in the right direction.

My therapist recently talked to me about CBT and asked me had I ever done that type of therapy before and I said no she said she plans on starting to give that a try.

I hope your therapay goes well and know that you are not alone.

Hi twirlinggypsy,

I'm glad to hear that you have a personal support system in your life that's truly a wonderful thing to have. Try not to feel like a burden because you are definitely not a burden but sometimes it's easy for us to feel this way. Can you believe I feel like a burden for just having to start a thread about myself? It was hard to do, I had that same feeling I don't want to say how I'm feeling or what's going on because I don't want to be a burden to anyone. It's easy to feel that way when we feel overwhelmed so we tend to think it may be overwhelming or a burden for others. I'm sure the people in your life love you very much therefore you're not a burden to them.

It's okay to go on medication, if you needed insulin for diabetes you wouldn't try to swear to never take the insulin because you know you need it and sometimes to improve our mental health we sometimes need medication to help us and it's okay. I think you are very strong for deciding to give medication a try that means you want to get better.

I agree your relationship with your therapist is very important and I'm so happy to hear that you have a great one. From your description she sounds like a very good one for you to be working with helping to pull you back from that victim mentality, making you feel empowered and equal parts of nurturing and tough she sounds great.