divorce and anxiety

I have had anxiety since 2009. Brought on by the most ridiculous of things actually. Uncontrollable thoughts. Fear of things I cannot control. It was rather severe back then, then I got married. The anxiety was underlying but all was better, no panic no sense of uncontrolled until my divorce 3 years later. Now Im having nervous behavior with the fear of returning to the way I was before I was married. Its only been 2 months since the divorce and all things I read says anxiety is "completely normal" after divorce. But I'm worried of the return to the way things were prior to being married. Any advice??

samedeal,

I can't imagine going through a divorce - I'm so sorry. Anxiety is created by fear so fearing it is making it worse. Easier said than done of course. Try a therapist! I know when I went through a traumatic event I was deep in the hole and all the depression medications didn't solve the problem. My therapist was very helpful in making me open up and making me deal with reality. Of course this site is like therapy too so keep posting here, reading stories, and getting help. Pick up an extra hobby if you have the time. My anxiety is the worst when I'm not busy, so I try to stay as busy as possible and this website certainly helps. Don't be scared of reaching out for help.

Good Luck!!

Hello Samedeal,

I experienced a painful divorce period before and actually my panic/anxiety problem started 4 years after it.
I can recommend you try taking control over your thoughts and anxiety before it stacks over itself. Because one really doesn't notice it. You can try distracting yourself and your thoughts. Then you will get use to your new life meanwhile. Try not to think about the past and bad memories, instead focus on what you are doing now and nice plans about future. Bad memories and past feed anxiety like a feast, you know.

Hope you feel better soon. Please post here whenever you feel down or need support.
HW has a very nice community and we are like a family here.
<3

Therapy can be particularly helpful at this time.

It's traumatic going through a divorce, for anyone, regardless of the reasons. You're starting everything all over and yes, it's normal to be nervous, scared, curious, fearful,....all those things are going to factor in.

I mention therapy because often times having an objective third party to talk to who doesn't have any vested interest one way or the other can help us to see things straighter than we may if left to our own devices.....

Worth a look-see!












M.

Seeing yr ex -TRIGGERED your anxiety and made it worst .All past and present feelings came to surface that were hidden all this time.
Maybe you could reconcile with ex -you think or i am talking jibberish ..sorry in case.

before marrying this person you had anxiety issues and does she know -if she knows she scould have supported you ?

sorry what i am saying might not make any sense -but you have separation anxiety changing into panic to PTSD /

SEEING a therapist should help and let them know how and what triggered it.

keep us posted .