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Posted 10/14/2014 11:39 PM (GMT 0)
Ok ssoooooo... 28 more days until my due date with my first son/baby number 3!!!!!!!! I have had two other babies and have not been this scared ... Ever!!!! To have my baby!!!! My concern is that I have this undiagnosed heart problem because of the daily flutters/palpitations .. And something is going to happen to me and/or my baby when I go into labor!!!! My oldest is 9 & my youngest will be 5 in December and I was always so excited to have them now I am totally freaking out this time!!!!!! Omg!! I need to calm down but I cant!!!!! I'm really scared something horrible is going to happen )= I just had a pretty big dinner (I've been losing weight because when I eat I get tooo full toooo fast and can't breathe then it sends me to panic mode!!!!) but I came into the living room sat down for a minute before cleaning up and what Do you know I get a heart flutter )= I'm just so sad about these stupid flutters that I've never had until about 2 years ago and it's all I obsess over and think about anymore... Like its a serious problem with me and I feel like I'm going to go crazy if I don't get help )= & I've tried ssooo many times and nothing works they never go away. I'm tired of living in constant FEAR!!!!!! ugh )'=
Posted 10/15/2014 12:13 AM (GMT 0)
Don't worry, I had the exact same thing with all three of my boys....when you're stomach starts to get really big toward the end it pushes up into your diaphragm and for alot of us (including me) that makes it very hard to breathe after eating a big meal. I made that mistake many times during my pregnancies but I couldn't help it....I was always starving!!! Then I'd get the heart flutters because everything is pushing up against it and makes you feel things you wouldn't normally feel. I had a heart monitor on afterwards and was diagnosed with PVC's, a very benign, common condition that many women have, pregnant or not. I don't know that that's what you're having but I'm quite sure it's nothing to worry about....I went through the exact same thing and m sons are now 44, 42 AND 23. I had the easiest pregnancy when I was 43 years old. So enjoy this like you used to...it's a time to be happy, not a time to worry unnecessarily.
Posted 10/15/2014 12:20 AM (GMT 0)
Lacey

I hate it that you are having a difficult time right now. I too get these flutters and they can be very unsettling to say the least.

You have been on HW for awhile now so I assume you have been exercising your coping skills/ techniques?? If not, apply them. They really work.

Let me tell you this... Heart flutters/ palpitations are symtpoms of anxiety. They are not life threatening (unless you have been diagnosed of a heart condition). I am assuming you have been medically cleared by your doctors?

A lot of our members have dealt with this symptom (or related symtpom) for a very long time. Larry, Circus Dog, Andwes, SC, or Merrida. They have educated themselves with this disorder and have learned to live productive lives despite their symtpoms. Knowledge is power!

The fear doesn't disappear overnight but if you are doing your copi g skills, going to therapy, and taking your meds you will notice that the fear will begin to fade. It's not easy, in fact, it's hard work but anything worth having in this life usually is. You can do this!

Hope you feel better soon!

Cornell
Posted 10/15/2014 12:52 AM (GMT 0)
Good advice above! I would just like to offer my support. I know it makes a big difference dealing with anxiety now when you didn't with your other two pregnancies. I'm sure your doctors are taking great care of you and would know if anything was wrong. It's going to be ok!! I hope you can find something to help you get through this time. I get the heart flutters too. Like Andwes, they are PVCs, lots of people have them and they are nothing to worry about! I can't wait to hear about your new little boy! ~Hugs
Posted 10/15/2014 1:02 AM (GMT 0)
Congratulations for almost hitting baby day and do not panic! Not only are the PVC's really harmless, but it's also completely normal for them to increase during pregnancy. Mine definitely did; especially in those last months.
Posted 10/15/2014 1:57 AM (GMT 0)
Hey Lacey,

I feel for ya dear. Pregnancy puts our bodies in such a delicate position. First of all I just want to say congrats on that baby boy! Those last 4 weeks are the weeks his brain develops in such an amazing way, and he will be here before you know it..! I am hoping that I can offer you a bit of empathy in that 9 months ago I gave birth to my 3rd, and my first girl. The first palps I ever experienced were during this 3rd pregnancy and have continued afterward. I just want you to know that you're not alone in your fear. I too thought I was going to die, or my baby was going to die during labor.

I am hoping and praying that your delivery day goes better than mine though! :) I was so scared the entire labor process that my little girl was going to die. I even had a panic attack while I was pushing her out. LOL. She was absolutely fine though. Things went perfectly...aside from the epidural not working....and my panic attack.... ha...

I truly believe that you are going to be just fine! Your baby boy is going to be PERFECT and hope and pray that you can kick back and relax a little bit. All of the advice above is great too! Congrats on that baby boy!
Posted 10/15/2014 6:09 AM (GMT 0)
I just had a baby in July and I had the same issue. I freaked out so bad the dr did an EKG just to make sure everything was ok. And it was. I also had slot of breathing issues during my pregnancy but it was just because my daughter was pushing up on me. I had a full blown panic attack in the OR the day of my csection tgey had to give me meds to lower my BP. But everything turned out fine:) no more heartbeat flip flops or breathing problems. :)
Posted 10/15/2014 3:02 PM (GMT 0)
LMA,

Congratulations!!! The day is almost here...and you an your son are going to be just fine.:)

Your body has done this before, nothing has changed since your last labor...and things are sure to go well, with nothing to worry about.

I know it is an extra challenge to have anxiety with pregnancy...because just dealing with the regular worries that go along with anticipating a birth are already a lot to contend with...

...but I am confident that you are going to ROCK this out, and be the picture of strength and calm during the event!

Keep us posted...we are cheering you on!

S.C.
Posted 10/15/2014 4:42 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks Sooo much for all the kind replies I really appreciate it!!! Giving me the courage for the day I go into labor!!!! My girls were both born
Early at 36 & 37 weeks so I'm going crazy wondering when he's going to come !! Maybe he'll be stubborn and make me suffer until
40 weeks (= the heart flutters are definitely scary though!! My main concern was having them while I'm in labor and something going wrong with my heart stopping or something.. But I have been cleared by many drs/cardiologists that my heart is "fine" with all the tests I've had done .. Even though I really just don't believe them sometimes .. I guess that's just the anxiety speaking for me!? On my holters it showed a few PAC's.. Which were enough for them to say "nothing" unusual Showed up.. I found this out at another cardiologist that told me my results that were in the computer because the last one felt it wasn't even worth telling me I guess!!! Ughh . I can honestly say I can't wait to be able to take my meds again but then again i wanted off of them when I was on them so it's like ... What do I do now!?!? Hmmmm. Well I feel he's coming sooner than later so let's just get this show on the road already so I can BREATHE AGAIN! hehehe (=
Posted 10/15/2014 5:11 PM (GMT 0)
Do you have a name picked out yet? (sorry if you already told us and I can't recall)

How about all of the boy stuff? I guess you had to buy some things new...as you may need some gender stuff that you didn't already have from your girls...

Did you have a shower yet? If so, I hope it was a great time with family and friends!

We have seen quite a few moms through very similar circumstances...so know that we here to help see you through this...so excited for you and your family! :)

S.C.
Posted 10/15/2014 6:54 PM (GMT 0)
Hi :-D

I had my fourth baby six weeks ago and i was scared too!
I thought my heart would go all crazy in labour, ( I get frequent ventricular ectopics) but it behaved itself all the way through!
I had a home birth which lasted 5 hours with no pain relief and everything went perfect!
I had all the worries that you are going through now! But that's just it....its just worrying, its not real!
My CBT therapist would say that worrying is not going to change anything so its a waste of energy! Easier said than done i know!!
I'm almost positive you and your baby will be absolutely fine just like we were!
Wish you all the best for your big day, and just try and focus on meeting your bundle of joy!
Please let us know when you deliver!

:-)
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