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Posted 10/18/2014 7:01 PM (GMT 0)
I have not been on in a while but recently I have been knocked down and trying hard to climb back up.

For those that do not know my story, long story short, I suffer from anxiety (mainly health) and depression and HATE to be alone. My two children are both in college, sophomore and freshman, and my husband does not understand. Took Paxil Cr successful for 12 years. Had set back two years ago and have been trying to climb back up ever since. I am, knock on wood, where I was two years ago but still not anywhere near where I should be.

Last four days anxiety (health) has been over the top. Do not feel good. Stomach hurts and so nauseous. Do not want to be alone and constantly taking my plus and just sit waiting for my non understand husband to come home from work. Was supposed to go see my daughter in college today but cancelled cause I could not go far from the house. I recently had blood work done and it was normal. X-ray of back for pain and normal again. No gallstones either. I just do not know.

I do have xanax but never ever take it - again, afraid what would it do.

Any help would be appreciated. What if I am sick and I keep listening to my husband who says it is in my head. ugh...Thanks
Posted 10/18/2014 7:39 PM (GMT 0)
Hello gizmofab, I understand where your at and just know that you have us on this forum for support, anxiety especially HA is terrible. Hugs to you
Posted 10/18/2014 7:47 PM (GMT 0)
Sorry you are feeling this way. It stinks to not have a husband that is understanding of your condition:( Set backs are the worst. Please remember, you are not where you were two years ago. Keep saying that to yourself. Out loud! Keep climbing!
Posted 10/18/2014 9:53 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks for responding guys. My kids were my rocks when I had my set back. They would stay home on bad days. But they are off in college now. Just me and my husband. I am 45 and am sure the whole Peru menopause is not helping.

My husband is the best guy but never understood and gets so frustrated. He is just like whatever. I try and breath and stay positive. Just hard
Posted 10/18/2014 10:59 PM (GMT 0)
Gizmo

Sorry that your husband doesn't understand what you are going through. But rest assured, we do!

Let me kindly make one recommendation... Take your xanax. Your doctor prescribed this to you for a reason! If you take it as prescribed, you will see the benefits!

Are you practicing your coping skill? Very important.

Come on here anytime for support and encouragement! Wishing you a peaceful night!

God bless
Cornell
Posted 10/18/2014 11:03 PM (GMT 0)
Hi GF and welcome back.

I am sorry that you are not feeling well currently. We all have rough patches from time to time...but we are here for each other when we need support....so good job on posting!!

Have you been able to develop any interests or new activities since both kids are in school now?

This is both a challenging AND exciting part of your journey!! If you can choose to embrace the new freedoms that you have as a mom to adult kids...once you make the difficult transition...I think there may be no stopping you! ;p

What is it you have always wanted to try, but sacrificed because you were a busy mom?

Now is the time! The distraction will likely reduce your anxiety. Take a chance...you can do anything you set your mind to.;)

S.C.
Posted 10/18/2014 11:07 PM (GMT 0)
I agree- do not fear the xannax- take just a half if you are afraid. I can tell you will not make a habit of it. Give yourself some relief please. Peri menopause is a very anxiety provoking period of life. There is nothing wrong with having a little help to get you through. I've been there-and I'm ok now

All my best
Posted 10/18/2014 11:30 PM (GMT 0)
Scaredy Cat,

I have tried to keep busy, as much as I could. I hate driving but I pick up my neighbors kids from school in the afternoon. I figured it would get me out. I clean and dust (got rid of the cleaning people), scrapbook I was behind on for each of the kids. I try.

Just do not know why it comes and goes like this. Maybe something is really wrong this time. ugh
Posted 10/19/2014 11:59 AM (GMT 0)
I agree with everyone's suggestion about Xanax. I have been taking it on and off for many many years with great success (and no side effects when I wean off it). My mom used to call it the "happy" pill because it just takes the edge off and makes you feel calmer. At first you MAY notice that it makes you a little tired so start by taking half and I'm sure you will see the benefits after just a short while. It's done wonders for me when I have been at high anxiety levels like I've been recently.
Posted 10/19/2014 3:41 PM (GMT 0)
Gizmo,

Those are good starts! :) Well done.

...but now try taking it a step further, and doing something just for YOU!!!

I had something more along the lines of pure, absolute fun and distraction for you.

Have you ever dreamed of writing, painting, learning a new language/skill ect....

What about joining a group like a book/garden/fitness club?

What is it you've always wanted to try but couldn't because you were needed at home 24/7?

You have done for others since your first child was born...now is YOUR time...I hope that you can embrace it!!

S.C.
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