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Posted 11/21/2014 11:24 PM (GMT 0)
Hi I wanted to know if what I'm feeling is social anxiety: I have been invited to several different events from friends of mine such as mini reunions or funerals for my best friends mother, I can not bring my self to go, I make
up every excuse not to go and I even try to talk myself into going because I know I should but I cant. I wont
even go out with friends to local place like bar/pub.
What is wrong with me???
Right now I am going through so many different feelings, like I'm numb. I wish I was dead but, I wont cause myself harm 
because I cant do that to my daughters.
I know I am just rambling on but I have nobody else to turn to.

confused

Post Edited By Moderator (Scaredy Cat) : 11/21/2014 9:30:53 PM (GMT-7)

Posted 11/21/2014 11:30 PM (GMT 0)
It sure sounds like social anxiety to me. I get the same way with different social gatherings. I've even avoided family events (and I love my family!), bc I just wasn't "feeling it."

What're you doing to treat your anxiety & depression? Are you in therapy?

Try not to be too hard on yourself. The fact you're reaching out says you want to get help & you're acknowledging this is an interference in your life.

Is this a new thing or something you've always struggled with?

Sending you support!
Lisa
Posted 11/21/2014 11:32 PM (GMT 0)
I've also had a lot of experiences where I've been invited to go somewhere and I will come up with any excuse possible to get out of it. I think this is actually kind of normal for those of us dealing with anxiety. Sometimes social events make you feel like you have no way to escape and that alone can increase anxiety. Hang in there.
Posted 11/22/2014 3:02 AM (GMT 0)
I'll agree with Lisa and Park. I didn't acknowledge mine as social anxiety at first, but it is. See, part of it is I can't drink anymore. Being the only sober one is awkward. I'm not being proactive enough in getting over it.

John
Posted 11/22/2014 4:34 AM (GMT 0)
Hi April,

I am so sorry to read of your struggles with interacting lately.:(

I too want to know what, if any method, are you currently using for anxiety/depression treatement?

I think that getting help would be a crucial next step if you've not done so yet....as this is affecting your quality of life.

Know that we understand and support you...and want to see you feeling your best.

Please keep us posted as to your progress. We will be here to cheer you on!

Scaredy Cat
Posted 11/22/2014 11:15 AM (GMT 0)
Hi April

Yes it does sound like social anxiety could be your problem I would suggest that you go and speak with your doctor about your symptoms and see what they say.

I have a diagnosis of Social Anxiety and found that therapy especially CBT and Mindfulness have helped me to get on top of my symptoms.

I hope you get some answers soon and keep us posted we are here to support you.

Hibee
Posted 11/22/2014 1:25 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you so much for everyone response. I finally feel like I'm not alone.
I am currently taking cymbalta and I'm not in therapy because of insurance
reasons.
There are so many emotions going through me right now and I didn't know
where else to turn.
Nobody understands how I am feeling and its so hard to explain to anyone.

Thank you again for everyone who has replied
Posted 11/22/2014 3:15 PM (GMT 0)
A.,

Here is the link to our Resources. It is filled with free and accessible self help material and information that you may find beneficial.:)

https://www.healingwell.com/community/default.aspx?f=9&m=104206


Take a look through and see if anything looks helpful to you and your situation. I can also post some social anxiety self help material at your request...let me know if you're interested.

Keep posting with us as well! We understand and are here to listen anytime!

Posted 11/22/2014 8:25 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you
Posted 11/23/2014 7:34 PM (GMT 0)
April,

You sound a lot like me... I have had "social anxiety" as far back as I can remember. The thought of any social event including family gatherings made me nauseous.

Here's what I learned... The thought of the "social process" is so much worse than the actual doing it! Force yourself to put that first foot forward to go to whatever social event is taking place. You will find that once you are there that it's not as bad as you anticipated. And in a lot of cases when it's all over, you will be so glad you went!

Continue coming on here to share your feelings with us. It's so thereupetic for me to "spill" my feelings!

Wishing you the very best!

God bless

Cornell

Post Edited (Cornell) : 11/23/2014 3:34:42 PM (GMT-7)

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