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Posted 11/28/2014 9:36 PM (GMT 0)
Not doing good at all today :(

Its 9.40pm here in the UK, and I've been sat here crying for the past hour. Not done this for a while though so think I was due a big cry...

Just feeling very sad right now and didn't know who to speak to so thought I'd post here...
Posted 11/28/2014 9:42 PM (GMT 0)
Hello dear CT
I am really sorry to hear you are not feeling well :/
Sometimes we need to cry and let it off out, naturally. Probably you will be feeling better.
It's 10:44 pm right now here, and I am sitting and trying not to fall in the claws of HA :P

Is it ok if I ask why you are feeling bad now? Related to the experience you had lately? If I am correct you posted a while ago about breaking up with bf :( Is he troubling you and making you feel guilty?

I hope you really feel better soon.
Posted 11/28/2014 9:51 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Rrakkma...Thanks for your reply

I'm hoping this big crying session will be the last one for a while! Takes alot of energy!

Yeah thats the one! My emotions have been all over the place the past few days.. He's really messed with my head and I dont think it's fair that I'm feeling like this :(

Had a really horrible feeling before that I wasn't even me.. I was just sat on my bed but it didn't feel real at all! Finding it really hard to drag myself back to normality because I keep getting lost in horrible thoughts :(

Hopefully will be feeling better after some sleep but I have a feeling it will be a long night for me :(
Posted 11/28/2014 9:59 PM (GMT 0)
CT,

I had a good cry last week. Sometimes it aggravates my stomach to really bawl, but it did me good.

John
Posted 11/28/2014 10:02 PM (GMT 0)
I guess this is exactly the same thing I experienced before with my ex husband, even though I wanted to divorce myself.
I can totally understand how it feels. The thing is, one just doesn't feel much at the moment of it but after a short while it feels like a nightmare going on.
It will take some time for your feelings to settle, but you will eventually feel better, I am sure <3

Are you in contact with him in any ways? Or do you have a chance to avoid him totally, so that the things he do/say won't make you feel guilty?
It can be really hard to move on if you continue keeping him somewhere in your mind. I know though, it's really very hard.

I am guessing it was his decision to break up? I hope you have strength to move on.
We are here for you, If you need to talk more about it.

Hug <3
Posted 11/28/2014 10:12 PM (GMT 0)
This is the weird part... I broke up with him!
I had very good reason to though, I wasn't happy and especially struggling with just being myself as it is, his overprorective ways and jealousy just made me feel even worse and I started to become someone I didnt want to be... He wanted me to be with him all the time, not speak to anyone else or go out with friends etc...

Since splitting he's been threatening to do all sorts of things and told me its my fault if he does! Put me in a really difficult situation because I don't want that hanging over my head if anything were to happen...

I am trying to cut contact but I don't think he will let it drop as easily as that... He also lives just round the corner and we've come to have the same group of friends so I think it will be a while before anything gets easier :(
Posted 11/28/2014 10:18 PM (GMT 0)
CT,

I'm sorry you're feeling bad, but sometimes a good cry is what we need to get it all out. I could actually use one right now.

I'm sending you a giant hug!
Posted 11/28/2014 10:20 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you Park! A giant hug is exactly what I need :)
Posted 11/28/2014 10:26 PM (GMT 0)
All,

Bizarre, yes? I still miss an ex I broke up with. Sadly, I've found no one since.

John
Posted 11/28/2014 10:58 PM (GMT 0)
I totally understand, living close by definitely doesn't help.
Please try not to care for the words he is saying to make you feel guilty.

When I separated with my ex husb. he said all type of things to me, even mentioned couple of times that I found someone else and cheated on him and stuff. He was refusing to see his mistakes and personality.

All of your friends are common? I mean, maybe it is a good reason for you to start a new page in your life, turn a clean white page :)
You obviously thought that he was not suitable for you and was making you upset. You made a hard decision and broke up. You can move on and I am sure you are strong enough to do that <3

Sometimes being radical and turning your back to people in order to protect yourself can be good. Even though it doesn't sound very nice.
Posted 11/28/2014 11:47 PM (GMT 0)
CT,

Sending hugs and wishes for a brighter tomorrow!

S.C.
Posted 11/29/2014 1:48 AM (GMT 0)
CT2014, we all need a good cry sometimes..I do hope you're feeling better though! I myself definitely have days where all I wanna do is cry..life is hard sometimes! But there's always better days ahead...and we're all here for you!!
Posted 11/29/2014 9:42 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you all. Stopped crying eventually but I've just woken up and feel like I've been beaten up in my sleep, whole body aches :(
Posted 11/29/2014 6:06 PM (GMT 0)
:( :( :( I get a horrible headache after I have cried a lot!

I am sending more support and encouragement and wishes that today is a better on eall around for you!

Maybe some journaling, light exercise or indulging in a favorite activity/treating yourself is in order to start the day of right.;)

Thoughts and prayers!

S.C.
Posted 11/30/2014 4:38 PM (GMT 0)
Good responses!

Crying can be therapeutic... I wish I could cry. I know I would be able to "release" some negative emotions I have been carrying around.

Have you been able to really study and examine the reason(s) you were crying? I would encourage you to discuss this with your therapists.

Thanks for posting and allowing us to encourage and comfort you during these times.

God bless

Cornell
Posted 11/30/2014 4:55 PM (GMT 0)
Sorry you're feeling beat up after the cry! Can you just sit back and relax today? Maybe lie on a heating pad for a little bit and loosen up your muscles.
Posted 12/1/2014 4:49 PM (GMT 0)
Very late in my reply but thanks again everyone for the support!
I had a very bad day on Saturday, was worse than I felt on Friday night.. But I managed to drag myself out of my horrific state and went out with one of my girl friends! That soon sorted me out :)

Mondays are a drag though....! Bring back the weekend :)
Posted 12/1/2014 4:58 PM (GMT 0)
CT.,

Hear, hear!! Monday morning and that blasted alarm came too quickly, eh? ;p

I am so glad that you are feeling better in general though!

GREAT job on getting out with your friend and not isolating! You did exactly the right thing for you...well done!! :)

Continued wellness!

S.C.
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