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Posted 12/8/2014 3:36 AM (GMT 0)
So, I am just very curious. Do any of you have any experience with blocked / suppressed emotions stemming from childhood neglect???? I'm sure it's not a very popularly studied topic, but hey, figured I'd take a shot and see!! :D

I started having a revelation today.....kind of..... :) It was a really NEAT or maybe even therapeutic experience. Would love hearing from others who have "been there, done that!" I'm only in the very beginning stages of this and actually had to google search to find out what to call it!!

Ok. Love you guys! Bye!
Posted 12/8/2014 3:46 AM (GMT 0)
This is the topic my therapist is really focusing on right now. She believes I have difficulty expressing emotions due to traumatic childhood experiences. And after years of suppression "pop" my anxiety levees broke and here I am. We haven't delved that far yet but I believe we are far from done.
Posted 12/8/2014 12:08 PM (GMT 0)
We’re all born with the fear of abandonment. That why newborns will cry when you lay them down and walk out of the room.

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I’ve read books about how we’ll mate up and marry people that most resemble the negative traits of both of our parents. We have this inner drive to resolve issues from our childhood…

Example – maybe your dad was in the military and wasn’t around much. You might marry a man that travels for his job… You’ll work your buns off trying to make it work..

I have a long history of suppressing feelings from the day to day grind of living with a spouse. Then every so often it all blows up.. Only way for me to get my point across is to bring up stuff that happened a few months ago…. Then I started doing this at the job….

It’s not fair to do that to all parties concerned… My shrink helped me with speaking up as things happened…
Posted 12/8/2014 2:30 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks for sharing guys. Great feedback here. I am hoping that God brings about this change in my heart, but seemingly after I chatted about it, I went to bed last night and had a dreadful time with anxiety!

:( Ya win some, ya lose some I guess. :(
Posted 12/8/2014 2:57 PM (GMT 0)
Hi TMA

I think our childhood experiences play a massive part in who we are today and I think that therapy is a good avenue to explore that so I hope things go well for you.

I did some cognitive analytic therapy about 6 years ago which really focuses on your childhood experiences and found the route of my anxiety comes from the bad experiences I had as a child. I think it was the best therapy I have done and in fact would like to do it again as there was a lot of things I was not ready to talk about the last time I did it which I think needs exploring.

Hibee
Posted 12/8/2014 3:33 PM (GMT 0)
I grew up with an anxious/depressed/manic father. We never knew when he was going to go off. The whole family had to dance around his emotions. My mother always tried to keep the calm but of course never could.
So, in my teens I went away each summer to live with a family and babysat. Each fall when I would return to home and school I had to find all new friends.
To this day I'm a loner. I never feel comfortable in friendships. I guess I don't trust people.

Yeah, I'm in therapy.
Posted 12/8/2014 4:37 PM (GMT 0)
Hibee, Thanks so much for sharing your insight. I knew there must have been something to all of this.... Guess I will keep on digging. :D Hope you get to learn more too!

tela44, I can totally relate! I still technically have to dance around my father's emotions.... And I also have a tough time maintaining close friendships due to my upraising. I'm not sure why it is for me, I think I am scared of people. I'm great with strangers in public though... strange!! Maybe we should be friends! :P :D
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