Books on attachment styles?

Hi all,

I have posted a bunch on other sub-forums but have also had to deal with my own self-reflected anxiety and what it means to me and my relationship with my wife. She is diagnosed bipolar, and our marriage almost ended with a resulting affair on her part.

The relationship is still in the first couple months of rebuilding, and for the most part it is going really well. However, after seeing my own therapist in trying to determine and possibly pinpoint my own anxiety, she suggested I read up (until our next appointment) on attachment styles. She believes I may be leading myself to codependency and that I show signs of anxious-preoccupied attachment.

Both of these don't seem like something pleasant for me to admit, but in order for me to understand it more, I have done my own online research. Most of this research is based on specific books, and a couple I was interested in reading are not in our local library, so I was hoping that someone on these forums could suggest something to me to help increase my own knowledge of what is happening to me and how I can cope with all my worry.

I have not been diagnosed with anything specific, but she has requested that we meet again and that she will probably take me on (she initially started off as being an intake worker for me under our healthcare system).

Even websites that are informative and have their claims and articles backed up by their sources would help me greatly.

I've have a lot of success going to these forums before and hope some of the patrons and/or moderators in here can help me find my way.

Thanks again :)

Thank you. I will take a look and see what I can find in it.

Scaredy Cat said...
http://psychcentral.com/lib/how-to-change-your-attachment-style/00020379

Yeah, this is the website I am looking at right now and have been reading through.

Therapist seems to think that I am working myself towards Anxious Attachment :(

In order to help myself and in turn to help my wife with her condition, or at least understand it, I am trying to find my best method to cope with everything but my mind just fills with worry and fear and it keeps me from sleeping, focusing (like right now) at work and keeping myself active.

Thank you for finding interest in my post and helping.