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Posted 1/1/2015 5:48 PM (GMT 0)
Happy new year to me. They said they are done. I guess I'm done too. I'll drop out of school. I'm going to be 40 this year. All my best years are gone. I don't even know what to do.
Posted 1/1/2015 5:50 PM (GMT 0)
I'm so sorry to hear of this news. But why drop out of school? You need to take care of yourself.
Posted 1/1/2015 5:50 PM (GMT 0)
I can't do school with a child by myself.
Posted 1/1/2015 5:55 PM (GMT 0)
MG.,

Hold on there...this could be a temporary emotional knee jerk reaction...

Talking things overr, and getting into some couseling for the relationship is in order. You both can agree that you owe each other and your little one that I am sure.

Encourage your partner to at least give this a try for the sake of the family. It is worth the effort and any expense. (or if money is the issue, you may be able to find counseling for no cost at your local parish/church...it is worth asking...)

Deep breaths, and know that you are all in our thoughts and prayers. It's going to be alright...keep us posted.

S.C.
Posted 1/1/2015 5:57 PM (GMT 0)
MissGiGi,

I am so sorry that you are going to have to go thru this.

Is there someone that can watch your child while you go to school like a family member or good friend?

Please take care of yourself in these trying times, are you taking medications and seeing a therapist? If not please go see a doc and get into therapy.

I wish you all the best and sending caring thoughts your way. Take care of yourself.


B.
Posted 1/1/2015 6:24 PM (GMT 0)
We've done counseling, SC. A couple of times.
Posted 1/1/2015 6:31 PM (GMT 0)
MG,

I am so sorry. I know you have been stressing about some marital stuff lately. Were these words spoken in anger? Maybe some time apart is in order? Or do you feel like this is the right choice?

As for school, can you defer a semester to get your situation in order? You've come so far; it breaks me heart that you wouldn't get to finish.
Posted 1/1/2015 6:41 PM (GMT 0)
As far as school goes there is financial aid, loans and even scholarships for single parents, I'd exhaust every avenue before quitting school, its a shame that you feel you have too but don't give up yet.
Posted 1/1/2015 6:44 PM (GMT 0)
AL- I already take out $45,000 a year in loans. I'm not worried about paying for it. It's a matter of being required to take 27 credits/semester. I just can't do it alone.
Posted 1/1/2015 6:46 PM (GMT 0)
Plus, I'm already on the edge of just making it by with the anxiety and panic attacks. Add this to it too, I just don't think I have the mental strength to do it.
Posted 1/1/2015 7:23 PM (GMT 0)
MG,

Not sure if you saw my previous comment, but is there any chance this was just a heat of the moment thing brought on during an argument or something along those lines?
Posted 1/1/2015 7:29 PM (GMT 0)
Park- I don't know. This has happened so many times I almost just want it to be over at this point.
Posted 1/1/2015 7:30 PM (GMT 0)
:-(

I'm sorry...
Posted 1/1/2015 7:41 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks Park. I just am so defeated right now. So sad and so alone.
Posted 1/1/2015 7:45 PM (GMT 0)
Is he still at home? Maybe give it a little time. Most importantly, give yourself time. You should decide what is going to be best for you too.
Posted 1/1/2015 8:02 PM (GMT 0)
I Yi Yi- what a way to start the year :(
My thoughts and prayers are with you
I don't know the circumstances of your marriage....hoping everything will work out for what's best for you
Posted 1/1/2015 8:38 PM (GMT 0)
Gigi, I am really sorry to hear that.
The thing you want to do is the most important thing. It would be amazing if you could continue with the education really.
Is there any way you can get help with your kid and all so you can continue?

I hope everything turns out well for you. Sending my best wishes <3
Posted 1/1/2015 11:38 PM (GMT 0)
G,

I'm sorry your new year has started out like this. Quitting school (and your dream) is so sad. I hope you can find a way to make it work. We are all rooting for you❤️
Posted 1/2/2015 12:29 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks everyone. Sorry to be such a downer right away in the new year. Going to take some time tomorrow to go over my options more rationally. Thanks for always being here for me.
Posted 1/2/2015 12:45 AM (GMT 0)
Do NOT apologize, whatever you do. Maybe you should try that massage again this weekend. A little time for you sounds like it's in order!
Posted 1/2/2015 1:12 AM (GMT 0)
Please take care of you!
Posted 1/2/2015 1:24 AM (GMT 0)
Don't apologize please! We are here for you <3
Be strong and have courage. This is your life, you are free to do whatever you want :)

Keep us updated
Posted 1/2/2015 1:47 AM (GMT 0)
Yep!! We are team MG and stand beside you in whatever you decide...or whatever outcome...

Know that you have those that love and care about you here!

Thoughts and prayers going out your way.

S.C.
Posted 1/2/2015 1:53 AM (GMT 0)
I'm so sorry you are going through all of this. Please consider staying in school. I went back to school later in life and had to make sacrifices and I don't regret a thing about it. :) Sending prayers and thoughts your way.
Posted 1/2/2015 2:41 AM (GMT 0)
This is very sad news. Hopefully once the emotions get under control you will be able to sit down and sort things out. This will be a tremendous amount of pressure but I'm hoping you can finish out your schooling.

When I was getting my graduate degree I ended up going part time because I needed to get a job.
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