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Posted 1/28/2016 1:46 AM (GMT 0)
hi, I'm a 14 year old girl and I've had health anxiety since I was in 6th grade. I've never been diagnosed but I'm 100% sure I have anxiety. these past months I've been getting such a weird feeling that it's so hard to describe. I get this unreal detached feeling and i think I get worried that I feel lightheaded and i get scared of passing out. I don't know how to explain it. I feel like everything around me is unreal and then I get scared that I'm gonna pass out. I only get this feeling when I'm thinking about it. when I'm around friends I don't think about it but when I'm alone in my room or just when I'm thinking about it I immediately get scared and worried. right now I feel like I can't do this anymore and I just want to be normal again. I feel like I'm never going to be normal. I'm always a happy person but this anxiety is killing me. and I always think about "what if this isn't anxiety and it's something serious?" I don't know what to do. I told my mom and all she said was to not think about it but it doesn't help. please help me!
Posted 1/28/2016 2:33 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Chocolate Lover,
I'm sorry you're feeling this way, and I have had similar experiences in the past as well. Anxiety is not fun! I think the best thing you can do to help yourself is tell your parents, or someone like a school counselor that you need help. Seeing a therapist has helped many of us learn coping skills to help deal with anxiety.
Posted 1/28/2016 3:14 AM (GMT 0)
Dear Chocolate Lover this reads like my own Daughter wrote it, she suffered with anxiety from about age 12 and
had every symptom you have, it was noticeable that when she was distracted by friends or some activity she was fine then when things would get quiet the symptoms you describe would manifest themselves.
I would suggest you with your Parents permission have a look at the items we have here, CBT, and Mindfulness,
are good and some kind of group therapy with others suffering from anxiety will help greatly.
Don't let it get you down, you may well grow out of it and the meds available work wonders, the thing i lean toward
most is "Distraction". You are going to be fine. Peace

Larry ***
Posted 1/28/2016 4:26 AM (GMT 0)
Hi CL,

I am sorry to hear you are feeling such anxiety and its uncomfortable symptoms. :( We know how difficult this is...so know you are not alone.

You mentioned talking to your mom...

...however, it sounds like you may need to seek help from another trusted adult.

Can you talk with your doctor, school counselor or youth leader/pastor?

They could help you in explaining to your mom about how profoundly anxiety can effect you.

I urge you to take this step so you can get into treatment and start feeling better.

We are here anytime for support...so keep posting with us as well.

Scaredy Cat
Posted 1/31/2016 3:57 AM (GMT 0)
Hey there,

I started having anxiety with panic attacks at age 15, so I know exactly where you are coming from. This was back in the 90's and there was not much out there to help me understand or cope with what what was happening to me.

The feeling of detachment from your mind & body is one of the worst feelings associated with anxiety (at least for me). It makes me feel like I'm crazy or am going to end up in a mental hospital.

The best advice I have for you is to talk about it with someone you trust. Say what you are feeling out loud and don't be ashamed. The sooner you you start some type of treatment the better. It is not something you want to ignore, as the symptoms manifest and will only get worse. Just know that you are not alone. I hope this helps somewhat : )
Posted 2/14/2016 4:08 PM (GMT 0)
hi everyone, thanks for the replies.

so, a week after I posted this, I stopped thinking about my symptoms and I just found ways to distract myself all the time and I felt so so good! I was always distracted at school, and at home, and I just never let this symptom affect me. and it felt great! but then it started again on Wednesday and now I can't stop thinking about it again. and now I just feel so scared and worried and I just want to feel normal again. just like I used to feel last week. yesterday it felt like my anxiety and my brain were fighting. it's like one side of was like "you feel dizzy you feel detached and unreal" and the other was like "no you're fine stop thinking about it" and i was fine at some times and then at some times I wasn't. we went to the mall yesterday and it was so bad because I kept on feeling that symptom. but before the mall I felt great! I just don't know what to do anymore because I feel so hopeless and I feel like I won't ever be normal again. I wake up every morning thinking "how am I gonna get through this? am I gonna be able to?" and it sucks. do you have anymore advice? I just need someone to talk to and I just feel uncomfortable telling my parents. please help me
Posted 2/14/2016 4:39 PM (GMT 0)
Hi CL,

I still feel strongly that you need to reach out to a trusted adult...if not your parents...then a school counselor/teacher, youth leader, pastor or doctor. You will not regret getting the help that you needed, early on. Some people suffer for too long because they have not taken this step.

For now, please see our Resources at the top of the main forum page here. (first thread) It is filled with great self help material that you can start to work on today!

For the symptoms you describe...learn and practice the suggested breathing exercises...as well as the other stress relieving exercises you'll find in this thread. (let me know if you need direct links and I'll post them for you.)

There is help and hope! Start the Resources material...and please reach out for getting started on a treatment plan.

Keep us updated as well...we are here for your support!

S.C.
Posted 2/15/2016 9:47 AM (GMT 0)
Hi CL

Welcome to the forum.

You have received good input above so I just wanted to pop in and say hi.

Keep posting we are here for you and understand what you are going through.

Hibee
Posted 2/16/2016 1:03 AM (GMT 0)
this is how my spells started also. thankfully they never lasted more than a few days-week at most. hopefully yours will pass and not last also. distractions help so try to keep busy
Posted 2/17/2016 11:20 AM (GMT 0)
Hi Chocolate lover, I too know exactly how you feel when you say about feeling unreal....it is a feeling that is overwhelming and beyond scary but please be assured that you are not going crazy or anything like that. This could be depersonlization which is what I have and it comes when you have so much anxiety and stress going on, that your brain basically switches on like a saftey valve to keep stop you being over loaded with stress and anxiety. I cannot explain it too well but here is a link to a website they may bring you great comfort.....

http://anxietynomore.co.uk/

Hope it helps :)
Posted 2/18/2016 11:16 PM (GMT 0)
Hi, I'm an 18 year old girl who is currently going through the same exact thing. I have the same type of worry as you (feeling like I'm going to pass out and being detached from the world- de realization). I recently had to go on an antidepressant that didn't work out for me at all and actually made my anxiety worse. I just want to let you know that you shouldn't lose hope, anxiety is extremely difficult to go though but you have to always stay hopeful because it won't harm you like it may feel. I have a lot of experience with anxiety and have had to stop my whole life from it. The best advice I can give is take it day by day and don't worry. I receny tried a vitamin called L-Theanine that was almost a miracle for me. I would definitely look into it, completely harmless and I'm not someone who likes to take pills or anything!
Posted 2/19/2016 5:15 PM (GMT 0)
Hello afiktrn and welcome,

Thank you for joining in the discussion and support here. We seek to be a group of peers who care and understand our common challenges, as well as celebrate our progress and victories.:)

I do notice this is your second posting with the url of panicattackhelper.com., and would like reassurance that this is not a vested interest site on your part...as this would be a breech in our forum rules for you to include it in your posts.

I await your response in this matter,

Scaredy Cat
Posted 2/19/2016 10:23 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Chocolate Lover,

I will second everyone else in this forum and suggest that you definitely find a trusted adult to talk to, so you feel that your feelings are validated, as I know how scary anxiety can be. I began having panic attacks and anxiety attacks at 14.

While I'm sure it'll pass, having someone to talk to helps immensely. In the meantime, definitely check out our resources and keep posting in this forum whenever you have time! It's so helpful!
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