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Posted 2/28/2016 9:50 PM (GMT 0)
Hi all,
this may sound very strange, and keep in mind i really do not want to offend anybody with what i'm about to say, but lately i have been suffering from a really big fear of having a different sexual orientation than what i know i am. I have been heterosexual all my life, and i don't think that this has changed. However i am scared that my environment might change me. For example, one of my closest friends is homosexual, another one is bisexual, etc.... and the homosexual friend has actually tried to change me in the past (for their own benefit). they haven't succeeded, but i am scared that them, or someone else, will change me. Some of my friends sometimes joke around about me being homosexual, even though i know it's not true i am scared that they could be right, that maybe in the future i will be like this. Several scientific studies have proved that your sexual orientation may change due to your surroundings. (i don't know if this is relevant but in the past i have suffered from panic attacks and anxiety disorders)

Post Edited By Moderator (Scaredy Cat) : 2/28/2016 5:06:41 PM (GMT-7)

Posted 2/29/2016 12:19 AM (GMT 0)
Hello Regina and welcome!

The fears/concerns we have with anxiety/OCD are neither something we subconsciously want to happen, or anything likely to happen...they are simply fears.

Fearing that you may start having homosexual feelings is just one of any random worries that could have manifested due to anxiety.

Have you ever been treated for anxiety/OCD? If so, What did you try? Therapy, medication and self help are all possible management plans.

We have great material for the later in our Resources at the top of the main forum page. There are specific links for OCD help to be found, so be sure to check it out.:)

Post with us anytime for anxiety support!

Scaredy Cat
Posted 2/29/2016 2:32 AM (GMT 0)
Yeah, seems like for me the thoughts I least want to have are the ones that pop into my head and stay there. Anxiety is a tricky S.O.B.!
Posted 2/29/2016 3:08 AM (GMT 0)
Anxiety is a tricky one for sure. But please be rest assured that no one can "make you gay," convince you to be gay, or anything of the like. There have been many studies that being homosexual is genetic, and is inherited. Things like hemophilia, Marfan Syndrome, Cystic Fibrosis-- those are all things that are inherited, and if you are friends with people that have these things, would you think that you could get it? The fear might be there, sure, but you have to tell yourself that its less than likely.

If you're comfortable in your sexuality and sexual orientation, then I wouldn't worry too much about it.
Posted 2/29/2016 8:45 AM (GMT 0)
Hi

Welcome to the forum you will find good support here.

This is actually quite a common thought with people who have OCD but as Blu said if you are comfortable with your sexuality then you don't need to worry to much about it.

Lots can be done to help OCD the best being a combination of medication and talking therapy such as CBT which teach you skills to overcome the intrusive thoughts.

Hibee
Posted 3/18/2016 10:05 PM (GMT 0)

Blu's Mama said...
Anxiety is a tricky one for sure. But please be rest assured that no one can "make you gay," convince you to be gay, or anything of the like. There have been many studies that being homosexual is genetic, and is inherited. Things like hemophilia, Marfan Syndrome, Cystic Fibrosis-- those are all things that are inherited, and if you are friends with people that have these things, would you think that you could get it? The fear might be there, sure, but you have to tell yourself that its less than likely.

If you're comfortable in your sexuality and sexual orientation, then I wouldn't worry too much about it.

Thank you so much for your help! I appreciate it!
However, I don't see how homosexuality is inherited; I know homosexual people with heterosexual parents.

And I believe your surroundings can affect your sexuality; you can even spot this in movies (which yes are not true stories, but nevertheless...)
Posted 3/18/2016 10:12 PM (GMT 0)

Hibee said...
Hi

Welcome to the forum you will find good support here.

This is actually quite a common thought with people who have OCD but as Blu said if you are comfortable with your sexuality then you don't need to worry to much about it.

Lots can be done to help OCD the best being a combination of medication and talking therapy such as CBT which teach you skills to overcome the intrusive thoughts.

Hibee



Thank you so much!
Yes so far I have only felt strong attractions toward males (I am a female) but I have to admit I have never actually been in a serious relationship. Nevertheless, I have always felt attracted toward males and I would like it to stay this way; I feel very comfortable with my sexuality and I wouldn't want to find out I am homosexual or worse, have others try to change me.
Posted 3/19/2016 8:38 AM (GMT 0)
Hi

Have a look at our links in the resources for some useful web sites on OCD.

Hibee
Posted 3/20/2016 4:52 PM (GMT 0)

Scaredy Cat said...
Hello Regina and welcome!

The fears/concerns we have with anxiety/OCD are neither something we subconsciously want to happen, or anything likely to happen...they are simply fears.

Fearing that you may start having homosexual feelings is just one of any random worries that could have manifested due to anxiety.

Have you ever been treated for anxiety/OCD? If so, What did you try? Therapy, medication and self help are all possible management plans.

We have great material for the later in our Resources at the top of the main forum page. There are specific links for OCD help to be found, so be sure to check it out.:)

Post with us anytime for anxiety support!

Scaredy Cat

Thank you for being so welcoming and understanding towards me! I understand... but my fears seem so real most of the time... Especially with this one, because i have many friends who are homosexual, and I fear it will rub off on me... I have looked at some of the links in resources, thank you. I have been treated for anxiety; i went to a psychologist. However, i have stopped going a couple months ago as my anxiety seemed to go away.... but I guess not!
Posted 3/20/2016 7:41 PM (GMT 0)
Well, use those Resources...and keep posting with us.:)

Hopefully this is a passing anxiety flare that you can deal with through the self help...

...if not, you can look into re-visiting therapy.

...and know you'll always find support here.

S.C.
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