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Posted 5/15/2016 2:31 PM (GMT 0)
This is when I had my first major breakdown about 10 years ago and since then every May it's really tuff. I have been actually doing pretty good, until.....I was told by my hubs that we have to go to his moms next Saturday for our little nieces birthday. I haven't socialized in years with his family and have never met my niece, I feel bad but this anxiety just won't let me. I kinda know why I have this problem and I will back up to 26 years ago when my husband and I were first married. Even though I knew his family since childhood, they caused me much stress and despair because some would gossip behind my back and they treated me horrible. I really felt bad and struggled to fit in with them.
Fast forward to now and even though we are living farther away from them and they seem nicer to me, I still don't trust them. So I think that always adds to my anxiety as to why I don't want to see them.

For awhile there I could see them and go to all family functions, but....that's when I drank along with them and that was three years ago and I haven't drank since. I think I wouldn't know how to cope or self medicate and be around them. The alcohol dulled it all. They all drink a lot at all family functions. I'm dreading going there and now my anxiety is horrible.
Posted 5/15/2016 4:28 PM (GMT 0)
Hi DS,

It is good to hear from you...though sorry it is due to increased anxiety at this time. :(

I understand how you feel...as interpersonal issues are a trigger for me as well.

Preparing yourself with some empowering and positive mantras as you get ready to attend the birthday will help. Speaking words of affirmation will lower your anxiety and give you the ability...to if not enjoy...at least get through the event. Below is a link with examples of mantras for you:

anxietynetwork.com/content/coping-statements-anxiety

...and who knows...you may actually end up having a good time! Remember the time previously when you were nervous to go to a family get together...

...and you stayed longer than you anticipated because it was going so well. :)

You can do this...and it will be a gift to your husband to step out if your comfort zone, and attend his niece's party.

I am sending encouragement your way!

S.C
Posted 5/15/2016 4:50 PM (GMT 0)
Thanks S.C, the hardest part is the getting ready part for some reason. Also the feeling that I'm dizzy and going to get sick to my stomach. cry
Posted 5/16/2016 1:23 AM (GMT 0)
I know...the anticipation is really difficult!

I recently had my big Spring Recital...and the week leading up to it was a bit rough...had some anxious moments...

...but the day of the show, I started with breathing exercises and positive mantras the moment I woke up...and had almost no anxiety at all the whole time.:)

I know you can do this....we are cheering you on!

S.C.
Posted 5/16/2016 3:42 AM (GMT 0)
Deb, this is Larry, today is today, it will never be yesterday again, not ever! Yesterday is not invited to
the party, you cannot bring it no matter how you may try. Today now that is something special we can
all enjoy today, and tomorrow, well it just never gets here no matter how hard we try, there is something about today, it just wont go away! We are here in the right now, might as well enjoy it.
Please take the high road when dealing with family, your victory is in completely forgiving them for any
offences of the past and it is a victory! Peace

Larry ***
Posted 5/16/2016 11:21 AM (GMT 0)
Thanks Larry, you are a very wise man, I appreciate your wisdom. Thank you and I will try. It's this weekend and there are two family events, it's going to be really hard if this allergy headache I have had for a week continues as it will make my anxiety even higher, if that's even possible, shakehead
Posted 5/16/2016 5:42 PM (GMT 0)
Debora, go find the the poem Foot Prints, it's not too long and it will mean a lot to you.

"You are stronger than you think, You can do this", Peace

Larry ***
Posted 5/17/2016 8:14 PM (GMT 0)
My anxiety definitely increases during this time of year. I think now that the weather permits lots of social activities, that's what makes me super anxious. Lot's of people + the heat= no bueno. But finding the good in spring helps... the beautiful flowers, the sun (all that vitamin d). Getting out and walking around nd just soaking in the beauty does wonders!!
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