Very worried about my Mother : ( , bones aching , health

Hi everyone ,

I find myself coming back to this forum every few months with my worries .

A few times , every couple days I would see my mom relaxing on the couch and making these faces as if shes in some kind of discomfort. The bodyparts would change but it was always mostly her hands , heels of her foot, back pain , her bones aching. My mom has actually been like this prob for the past 5 -10 years with random pains here and there but it really got me anxious today , she told me she felt some discomfort upper leg bones.
I really dont want to keep asking her questions or telling her to go see a doctor because shes like me and I dont want her to worry.

I try to set up appointments for massages , or try to get her to do accupuncture or yoga stregthing but shes just not into those things and doesnt really like leaving the house other then for shopping. She works 3-4 days a week and long hours , pretty much 12-14 shifts per day.

I saw a letter on the fridge from breast cancer center , and told her to have a checkup , something about being over 50 you need a check up and that letter really freaked me out , I started to get anxiety thinking about it.

She seems to be in pain quite a bit , I try to help her about by reccomending massages or walks but shes just not into it , either because shes too tired to do anything from work or just doesnt like to go out.

Im really worried for her , just worried when she told me her bones are hurting/aching ..... is that normal at all ? shes a bit over 50 , Idk Im just always assuming the worst case scanerio .... if anyone has any advice that would be great , maybe some ladies who could relate to this situation or something ?

I do soo well for a few months then something always pops up to give me anxiety out of nowhere .

Love you guys

Oh dear ML
If its any consalation i am 56 work full time , and when i get home i ache in various places and at times different places , after check up with GP its general ageing , arthritis here and there some osteoporis in hips and some wearing of the spine..

I try not to groan and moan when my girls visit as i dont want them worrying. And my other half has the same aches and pains. Im not a big fan of going out much but thats down to anxiety and work takes all my effort and strength so home is a relaxing hub for me.

I am hoping your mum's is similar , i too have just had a letter for breast cancer checks which from 50+ they call you every 3 years. I went and all is clear.

See if you can get your mum to visit GP to tell them about all the aches and pains , there maybe something to ease it, I use rubs and all sorts and have to take pain relief daily ... but keep plodding on.

So try not to worry too much x and look after your self ☺

I completely agree and second SC's statement.

Unless a parent is unable to care for themselves, and they are of sound mind, it ultimately is their path and journey. All you can do is encourage... but do not be discouraged if they don't take your advice. Remember...it's hard to reverse 50+ years of thinking and acting...

But I will say, my mom is 54 and often complains of aches and pains, too. She works 60+ hours a week in a very demanding job and her doctor's have always said that it's just one of the perks of aging and being a bit older...