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Posted 12/12/2017 9:37 AM (GMT 0)
Hi everyone, I hope you all are having a good holiday season so far. I have not had anxiety in the longest time up until about 2 months ago and its getting worse. I am in a wonderful, loving, committed relationship with my boyfriend for a year now. He's the love of my life so thats the best possible news I can share since I was last here. Recently my mother has been diagnosed with Congestive Heart Disease. Its very scary and its very serious. She has been doing well except for water retention…she is only 53 years old. She has a pacemaker that has thankfully NOT gone off since it was first implanted into her chest a year ago, so thats a very good sign. I don't want to lose my mom…Im thankful for every minute I have with her because this is a very serious disease and I do not know (if the time comes) that she is eligible to get a heart transplant. I know Im thinking way ahead to the future but my mom means the world to me and I wish there was more I could do. If you guys have any personal experience on the subject or any advice at all it would be appreciated. I stay up hours at a time trying to think of ways to help her…and come up short…which only makes me more anxious and depressed. Sleep is scarce these days for me. Have to practice my coping skills again. Also, any good thoughts, prayers, and vibes would be the best. smile
Thank you
Posted 12/12/2017 6:26 PM (GMT 0)
Hi KB!

It is good to hear from you again! So glad to hear that things have been going well in general...

...but of course sorry to hear about your mom's dx.

Naturally this is scary, as no one wants to be health challenged, or have a loved one go through it...however, in this day, with all of the medical advancement we have and have still coming...

...many people with conditions such as your mom's are living many happy and healthy years!!

Have faith that since she has been diagnosed, and is getting the proper treatment, that she will do well with the management of the condition, and thrive.

Keep focused on the success stories, and yes, absolutely use your coping skills such as Therapy Worksheets and Positive Mantras/Affirmations (see links in the Resources) to keep the negative/scary thoughts defeated!

Post with us anytime for understanding and support...we are here for you. smile

S.C.
Posted 12/14/2017 12:01 AM (GMT 0)
How about instead of thinking of ways you could help her ASK her what she needs and wants every day - that will cure a lot of your anxiety. Try it, it will work I promise smile xoxo
Posted 12/14/2017 3:08 PM (GMT 0)
My dad is 84 years old and has had a pace maker for a few years without complications. My dad is way older than your mom and I can tell you that the process of parents getting old and sick is not easy and it must be so hard with your mom being so young. I think that you can only be there for her and enjoy the time with her as much as you can. The anxiety makes it really hard and I hope you feel better soon. Try to take care of yourself and things will get better.
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