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Posted 9/8/2019 4:38 PM (GMT 0)
I’m not new here, just forgot my user and password. Created a new one,my old user name bik31.

How are you guys? Me, not great. Tired of sharing it with my husband. Having a lot of anxiety and panic lately. Nervous is to the highest level. I just want to cry to let it out. Crying because of what I feel inside. I just want to slowdown with my life,seem very fast. It started last year. Loss my late husband 2016, meet new husband 2018 got married,bought a house, had a baby. Don’t get me wrong I love my life, love my husband love my baby he is almost 8months. I just tired need a break that’s all I want but how? I just want to share it here. No one seem to understand.

Hi scaredy-cat, miss talking to you. How are you? I don’t know if you still remember me.
Posted 9/8/2019 7:03 PM (GMT 0)
It's good to have you back here, Raquel 83. Maybe coming back will be the first step of starting the process of reaching out to others for help as well as being able to begin feeling better about things.
Posted 9/9/2019 1:40 AM (GMT 0)
Hello my friend and welcome back! Of course I remember you!

You have been through a lot in just 3 years. Of course losing your husband and the emotional trauma that his family put you through is negative and causes anxiety...

...but even positive changes such as getting married again and having a baby can register as anxiety. Sometimes our minds recognize all excitement...bad or good as a heightened emotional state which can be experienced as stress.

You have a lot on your plate at the moment. It does often seem like life should slow down...I often feel the same.

Taking time for yourself to decompress is crucial. Is your husband good about letting you get out on your own occasionally? How about just the two of you? Do you get date nights? All this will help.

Are you also able to practice your coping skills? I think I remember you saying that you had been walking and that it had helped...so I hope you can find time for that and other anxiety management techniques.

...and as MMB mentioned...talking with us here again can be a great outlet. So keep posting!

Again welcome back....it is good to hear from you, and hope to talk to you soon!

S.C.
Posted 9/9/2019 3:36 AM (GMT 0)
Thank you MMB, thank you SC, yes this forum helps me a lot. I don’t feel alone. I just had a melt down after I posted here in the morning. I cried a lot with my husband. Told him I’m tired of being negative. I’m tired of thinking of the negative thoughts. I was crying big time to him and in just one click I got scared about being crazy thinking already. I snap it told myself, “ being too emotional is not helping me. I should be strong for my son. And besides I have a good life, I have a house I have a loving husband and son why I acted like it’s the end of the world” talking to myself help me out.

Went out today with my son and husband. I’m Excited doing a garden for the outside house. Put my son to the stroller and watching us me and my husband cleaning the yard to put some garden there later. I’m guessing I’m just bored or tired being tired. I’m new mom and I’m scared for the future. Thinking those stuff makes me scared in life.

Pls help me to be positive in some ways pls. I’m very negative, worried freak, overthinking and stress for no reason. I just need to slowdown. I meet a new friend in the neighborhood and planning to visit her every time my husband at work. He is working night from 2-12mn.

Any motivational words to day by day life? Will really appreciate it guys. Thank you very much. Sorry for the long post.
Posted 9/9/2019 4:07 PM (GMT 0)
R/Bik,

I used to struggle with negative thinking as well...it was just how I was wired up.

However, learning that you can retrain your brain so that thinking in a more posive way, has been a game changer!

Our brains will respond to whatever thoughts they are exposed to...so catching the negative thoughts and redirecting them into good ones will become a habit over time. It takes some practice, but it will work with continued effort...and even start to change the brain's chemistry!

Using 'Therapy Worksheets' to restructure negative thoughts...as well as practicing 'Positive Mantras' are two tools to start with. You can find directions for both in our Resources.

I hope you can put these into use and start seeing a difference soon. You've already taken the 1st step in recognizing the issue...and that is HUGE! Well done!

Keep us updated so we can keep you in support!

S.C.
Posted 9/9/2019 6:33 PM (GMT 0)
Thank you so much SC, woke up like I didn’t sleep. You are right, I’m hoping I don’t give up easy. I will try to divert my thinking into positive thoughts, it’s very hard been telling my husband about that. But I will keep trying my best. The little garden we have and bought some plants hopefully it will help me a lot. Will look for the resources here. Might help me as well. I’m just very negative thinker, end up I’m stress out from over thinking things and will start my panicky. It’s very hard 😞 thank you so much SC for always responding on my post.
Posted 9/10/2019 2:42 AM (GMT 0)
I m no doc but you might be having post partum depression.

Try talking to family doc.
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