Making Decisions

You are procrastinating. Buying a vehicle is a huge decision. Then you have a car payment unless you can pay for it all at once. Insurance to full coverage. I would start looking around for what you want and see how that feels. Take your time and don't let anyone talk you into anything you don't want.

Know that you have options. And this will only happen if you make it happen. Maybe even start with a phone call. Best wishes.

Hugs, Karen...

oceanfisher:

When years ago I was untreated for bipolar, which included depression and anxiety, decisions were difficult to make. For instance, I couldn't decide if I needed to see a psychiatrist.

I was also negative, along with anxious, depressed and bipolar. Just a mental swirl, which, being negative, I didn't think I could solve. And I was right. Being negative, I couldn't solve it, so I stayed there in my apartment, pacing back and forth, until I had a nervous breakdown.

So, if you have some negativity along with the anxiety, you might want to look at that.

mayoclinic.org says one of the signs of anxiety is,

"Trouble concentrating or thinking about anything other than the present worry."

I typed in "Anxiety and decision making" in the search engine and Heysegmund.com said
under "How to Stop Anxiety Intruding on Decisions":

"Be mindful. Mindfulness strengthens the pre-frontal cortex, which is the part of the brain that can be sent offline by anxiety. Without the full capacity of the pre-frontal cortex to weigh in on decision-making, decisions are more likely to become fixed and rigid and driven by intrusive emotions that don’t deserve the influence. Mindfulness strengthens the brain’s capacity to filter out distractions to make more grounded, relevant decisions. It limits the influence of the things that don’t matter, so you can focus on the things that do."

This above "mindfulness" (and being positive) are also stressed in this website's "anxiety-panic resources" at the top of the list of people who have written into this forum, which you might want to look at.

Your situation is not unique. People have been down this road before. I'm one of them. It's good that you can reach out onto the computer, without having to leave your house, and get some websites such as this one to try and help out with the problem.

We don't all have to repeat the same problems but can learn from those who have had this problem or studied it.

I used to have a difficult time making a decision much of the time because I feared making a mistake.

But now, I'm not as afraid to make a mistake because I realize that it's okay for me to make mistakes in life, just as long as I don't keep making the same mistakes over and over.

Me making a mistake made me feel like a fool back when my self esteem wasn't as good as it should have been.

I was surprised anyone commented on this thread lately. I actually traded in my car and bought something I really like. It is only one year old and still under warranty. I am happy I did this as my life has been hard lately especially pain wise. Unfortunately my pain meds are almost gone before my next appointment in two days. Funny how the dr tells me to call if I have a problem. I have been going to the same drs office for over ten years. I called two weeks ago because of extra pain from my surgery and of course they did nothing to help. Now I have gone through my meds two days early. This will never happen again.

God bless you all