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If You're Shy, Try To Overcome It Sooner Rather Than Later

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Posted 7/17/2020 6:42 PM (GMT 0)
Of course, we all have social anxieties. However, serious shyness/severe social anxiety can be a real problem for those who suffer from it.

Those who are rather shy in general are less likely to have lots of good quality relationships with friends. They're also more likely to get married later on in life than those who aren't shy. And they're less likely to get married at all compared to those who aren't shy.

So if you're shy, I think it's a good idea to try to overcome it sooner in your life rather than putting it off later on.

And if that means seeing a therapist or having to go on medication, then so be it.

I just suggest this because if you're shy, I'd hate to see you miss out.
Posted 7/17/2020 7:56 PM (GMT 0)
But how do we know that they are missing out. Maybe they are experiencing something we don't understand. I am not shy but I often choose not to be around people much. Give me a dog and I am in my glory. Not that I don't like people, I just don't like drama. And I see that a lot when I interact with people. Maybe it is just the certain people I have interacted with.

I guess I am saying some people might present themselves in a manor that we think they are shy when in reality they are quiet by choice.

I agree though, a shy person may not be experiencing things that an outgoing person would. And I do believe they are slower to find a soul mate. But would that give them a more meaningful relationship because the couple would most likely be older? Would the relationship be more mature as the people are?

I didn't get married until I was close to 30. But I lived with the guy for 12 years. But to me at that time it was just a piece of paper. Then I started needing to see the doctor so we got married so I would have insurance. So it was more out of convenience than anything. Though I am not saying it wasn't love. But it was more about my health. And diabetes.

Good thread and subject as usual Mike. I hope you had a nice day.

Hugs to all...

Karen...
Posted 7/18/2020 12:50 PM (GMT 0)
One needs to understand there is a huge difference between shyness and severe social anxiety.

I believe many people who are "shy" have an endearing quality about them. They also seem to "listen" very well - a great characteristic! I also believe "shyness" may be something you are born to be, and may be something you were meant not to change about you! I don't believe simple shyness precludes you from a wonderful quality of life - thinking otherwise sounds a bit prejudicial. As you become older, you will probably understand this better. smile

P.S. I am not what one would call a "shy" person.
Posted 7/18/2020 5:02 PM (GMT 0)
Hi

I have severe social anxiety which comes from having Autism Spectrum Disorder and it’s something I will always suffer with but have learnt through therapy coping techniques which help and I also take medication that helps.

Hibee
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