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Posted 11/14/2006 2:20 AM (GMT 0)
I'm really in a bad way right now, and the fear of being alone is really making me upset.  Friday, I spent the entire day with constant anxiety along with several panic attacks, then on Saturday night, I had a complete out of control, hysterical point, panic attack.  My husband was gone hunting both days, so there was no one here to help me.  Now, I'm terrified to be alone.  My husband came home yesterday and even stayed home from work today to be with me, but obviously he has to go back tomorrow and I'm scared out of my mind that I'll have a panic attack like the one Saturday night.  I don't have anyone who can come over to spend time with me.  Does anyone have any ideas or advice as to what I can do to deal with this fear and get through the day. 

Thanks to all,

Jacquie

Posted 11/14/2006 3:41 AM (GMT 0)
Well, you have just taken the first step towards feeling better by opening your heart to everyone here at HW..you are sure to get great advice.
Why are you afraid to be alone? Are you living in a remote area?
Does your husband hunt alone or go with friends who have partners that you could befriend and contact while he is away?
Have you suffered from P/A's before now?
So many questions..sorry about that :)

Maree
Posted 11/14/2006 3:49 AM (GMT 0)
While it wasnt pleasant, you survived! You CAN do this! Try to keep busy and not let yourself dwell on it. When you find yourself thinking/worring about being alone, stop and tell yourself "NO!" Deliberately focus your energy and thoughts on something else.

Can your husband get phone calls at work? Or is there someone else you could call if you need to make a "connection" to help you over a rough spot? I'm sure there will be someone on-line to help if you need it also.

I know you can do it!

Karen
Posted 11/14/2006 5:16 AM (GMT 0)
Correct me if I'm wrong, but it sounds like you are afraid to be alone now since you had a bad time of it while your husband was away. Like Karen said, you CAN do this! It might be hard, but each time you spend the day alone, you'll be better able to face the next day alone. How do I know this? Well, even though my situation is not the same, in a sense, I can relate. I once got to the point that I was so anxious all the time that I was getting afraid to leave the house. I made myself get dressed and got into the car. When we got about halfway to town, I had a major panic attack! I wanted to say to take me back home soooooooooooo bad! But I knew that if I did that, I might never leave the house again! So I insisted on going forward. I managed to go to town that day. I did not enjoy it, of course, but the relief I felt at knowing that I had made it thru another day and all, meant a lot to me! It was hard many times after that too, but each time I proved to myself that I could do it, I came to realize that I would be able to do it again and again. Finally, things got better. I'm not saying that it will be easy to be alone, but each time you succeed, you'll be stronger for the next time! We're rooting for you and when you get anxy, get busy---call a friend, go online, take a walk. Just don't let yourself sit and dwell on being alone. It will help! Keep us posted and know that we care! ;)
janet
Posted 11/14/2006 12:49 PM (GMT 0)
I have the same feelings. Did your dr prescribe any tranquillers I am on ativan and it seems to work well. Try to stay calm and go with the flow. Don't fight it it makes it worse.

Dee
Posted 11/14/2006 1:11 PM (GMT 0)
Welcome to you both
First I agree you had it bad while hubby was away and you made it thru
Plus you found us and this is the greatest suport group around and the peeps are th best to help you thru anything and everything IMO........
Have you been diagnosed with Panic disorder?
Do you take any meds at allf for this
Do you have any clue why it bothered you so much being alone
And how about the wives of the hubbies with yours are they able to come over
You have gotten great advice and input so far hun just know we are here for you and dont suffer alone with this okay


Dee Welcome to you too
Glad ya found us sorry for the reason
Hope you find this a great support system and see that all the peeps are here to help out one another.....
Post often and be well
Lyn
Posted 11/14/2006 11:23 PM (GMT 0)
How did you do today Junebug??

Karen
Posted 11/17/2006 8:31 AM (GMT 0)
Wondering how you are getting on Junebug? Hope everything is ok..

Maree
Posted 11/17/2006 11:37 AM (GMT 0)
Junebug we are all hoping you are okay
Please post when you can
Lyn
Posted 11/17/2006 1:09 PM (GMT 0)
Hi Junebug

I read your post hun I hope things are going better for you today. If you start feeling this way today try coming to chat on the blue line above. There is usually always someone there to help and talk you thru this. You will meet a great group of friends there and please keep posting to keep us updated on how your are doing. 

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