fear of anything new or different, anticipatory anxiety

anticipatory anxiety can be a big problem for an anxiety sufferer

having to do anything thats new or different can be dreaded and worried about for weeks

often the period before the event is worse than the actual event, which usually passes OK, making you wonder why you worried so much

of course, an insurance dose of valium or similar always makes things easier, and the fact that you have some tablets should reduce the fear

learning how to stop worrying is a big help and selveral self help books on worry have useful advice

another problem is that we anxiety sufferers mostly have a strong dislike or fear of feeling uncomfortable, and doing anything new does have this risk

however, life isnt supposed to be all about avoiding discomfort, most accept it and the risk of it as part of our normal lives

Wow
That sure hits the nail right on the head!! I deal with that constantly.. another thing i am worried about right now that is a similar situation.. is that My mother is coming over to mine and my wifes house tomorrow and whenever she comes around she makes me feel very comfortable... However i am extremely nervous allready about the time that she is going to be leaving

Whenever she comes over it is great and my anxiety diminishes greatly.. however once it comes time for her to leave i get VERY VERY anxious to the point of a possible panic attack or a full blown panic attack and as a person with P/A that is our very worst fear.. is having that panic attack!!

I dont know what to do.. i am so nervous

thank you for the insight
Mario

Thanks Harry as usual the input is great
Lyn
Happy Holidays and all the best in the New Year

lots of deep slow breathing and some valium type meds will help

these meds relax both the body and the mind

Yes thanks harry it is good post and Karen so right lotsa extra relaxation tech and breathing for me too