Does anyone know how stress leave works?

I haven't been on here for a while, as I haven't been able to access a computer....anyways, anxiety hit me head on a couple weeks ago, and realized it's my job that works me up the most.  i'm miserable there, just the thought of heading in there makes my heart race and i feel all panicky.  i'm wasting my life there.  On wednesday evening, i broke down in tears in my living room and was not pleasant to anyone in my house.  i have been a witch lately to everyone i know, and realized for my health's sake, i need time off work.  i called in sick today, and on monday i see my doctor to get a note.  i am a single mother of 2, and since i was 18 years old, i have been going going going, no stopping.  after i had my second son, i was back to work within 4 months, as i had been a 'fresh' single mother, and had no idea how i was going to support me and my 2 children otherwise as i don't even know where the heck to find their father.  now i'm stressing because i keep thinking 'what if i can't go on stress leave'.  but why wouldn't i be able too?  my mind is racing, as i am the only income in this house of mine, but i know i need to take time off, and try to relax, so that I can be better to my family and everyone else around me.  after coming to this conclusion, the second i left work yesterday, i couldn't stop smiling, as my anxiety felt like it eased up and not having to be that place took some much weight off my shoulders.  i have been suffering now with this one and off (mostly on) since september.  i'm worn down so much right now, and i need this leave.  i know there's a lot of people on here who have taken stress leave before, so can someone please  give me some advice???!!!

I'd really appreciate it!!!

Thanks for your reply!  I really do not want to use up my holidays if i don't need to.  i'm going to see what my doctor says, and go from there.  i have a knot in my stomache just thinking about having to go back to work.  I hate this feeling.  i do really need a few weeks off though, i do know that for sure!

Thanks Lynn!  I'm in Vancouver, BC so I hope it will be easy.  I do need though.  that work environment will drive me crazy, one day, i'll go in there and snap, and it won't be pretty!  everything i've been thinking about everyone will fly right out of my mouth!!  i feel relief that I came to this conclusion, but i've also got a knot in my stomache, as one of my supervisors is horrible if you take sick days or days off etc.  don't know whats it to her, but that's the way she is.  I will need to get brave for Monday.  i have to put it out of my mind so i can enjoy my weekend!  I have a job interview monday, even though i dont want to rush right back into work, but I need to have a back up plan.  i really need out of where i'm at.  it's not good for me mentally or physically.

Thanks Lyn, you put me at ease for now!! (until my mind does that 'stinking thinking' as you call it!!!!!!)

I didn't know until today that we're in the same area!!

i called my friend who works at the insurance place that my work uses, and apparently, it doesn't cover stress leave, only depression.  but i don't know if I would be using that or human resources.  thank you for asking that information for me!  you are so thoughtful!

Hello Worrier

 

I just wanted to say hello and check on you to see how your day is going today. I hope you got to relax soom today. Good luck on your interview tomorrow you never know the change may be just what you need.

AS soon as I find out ANYTHING will let you know hun k 'Luvs
Lyn

Hello Worrier

I'm so happy your dr took you off work. Enjoy your time off and next week start just kinda look around in news papers for another job. maybe that will help too. Get you somr rest hun.

 

Staying home with the kids is more work than going to work, but much more fulfilling of course!!

Thanks Lyn for getting back to me on that!  I hope you're feeling better!

Hi Lyn!

I saw my doctor last monday, and she extended it, now i'm just waiting for EI to kick in which i hope happens ASAP!!!  i'm stressing!!!  To add to the stress though, my boyfriend and I just broke up today, and it's been hard-all because he didn't pay an interest in my children.  i guess you could say he just 'put up' with them to be with me.  sure enough, the truth all came out.  i've been praying for everything to work as it should, and sure enough, everything did.  my children are 4  and 6, 2 boys, and i cannot imagine anyone not taking to them!!  oh well, i guess the man just didn't have it in him.  what can you do.  like i need anymore stress  in my life!!!!

the stress without a paycheck for the time being is better than the stress of going to that horrible job i was at though!!  i do have to find something soon im hoping, but i want to be happy.  i hope everything will get better for me!~  the one thing i can be at ease with is that i did the best thing i could possibly do for my children.  their dad disappeared and the last thing they need is man around that pays no interest in them.

hi again lyn!

i called EI this morning and it's in effect!!!  i breathe now!

as for the boyfriend, i'm not sure if im being too touchy.  he tried i know, but not hard enough as he admitted to me today.  he didn't grow up in the most 'stable' household.  and i dont' know if that's hs problem.  i love him, and i have been crying all day.  i hate feeling like this.  i just sent him an email explaining my feelings, but he has no right telling me how he thinks i should discipline my children.  he claims i 'm too nice.  yes i am, but i will deal with my children how i feel.  i do not need his input.