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Posted 10/31/2007 5:29 PM (GMT 0)
So yesterday I was at work. Some guy came in and was dropping off his business cards. Well he started to flirt with me. I mean shameful flirting. Which I did not reciprocate. I literally felt like I was at a bar being picked up on. He asked me out and I said I was married and wasn't interested. I was very nice about it though. 

 

In the middle of the conversation I started having the "deer in the headlights feeling" like my head was going to jerk or twitch or something. I started losing what he was saying because I think I was on the verge of a panic/anxiety attack. He was making very stong and pointed eye contact with me and kept giving me compliments.

 

It was a very wierd feeling almost like anxiety but different.

 

This has never happened during a one on one conversation before, usually just at church or at business meetings. Now that it has happened I'm afraid it will happen all the time. Ahhhh.

 

So what is this & what do I do? Is this some sort of social anxiety?

 

Thanks

Posted 10/31/2007 8:01 PM (GMT 0)

IMHO I think you were feeling very uncomfortable with this man in your face. He was inappropriate and I suspect you wanted to tell him to  bug off but were not sure how to deal with it.

Your anxiety started to kick in and your head was spinning with trying to deal with how the whole situation was going.

Next time, just politely tell someone that behaves that way, "I am not comfortable with this conversation, I find it inappropirate."  Walk away, ask him to take a seat in the waiting room or whatever.

I am assuming he was not a co-worker?

Gentle Hugs

Kitt

Posted 10/31/2007 10:53 PM (GMT 0)

Thanks Kitt,

No not a co-worker, just an outside contracter who was looking for referral business. Real professional huh.

I think your right. I just felt trapped there. If he comes back I think I will take a polite but more firm voice and walk away.

Now I just fear that it will start happening in regular everyday conversations, so I just have to make sure it doesn't. That would not be good since I have to work one on one with people all the time.

Thanks for your reply.

Posted 10/31/2007 11:46 PM (GMT 0)

Hey there, I am sure this was an isolate incident and due to the topic you felt trapped.  You have done well with others on one to one so don't change your ways.  You are a winner.

Gentle Hugs

Kitt

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