Sukay, I'm sure you have good intentions, but your post comes across very harsh and judgemental. My intention of sharing my struggle with this forum was to get some insight from those who suffer from...
Oh Stephanie, I can hear your pain. I am so sorry you are feeling this badly and struggling about what to do, just remember this is definetely temporary and you will feel better soon. I know it's...
Hi JoyArtsful, Just saying welcome to this board. You have already written to me, and I am very thankful for meeting you! /community/emoticons/yeah.gif Hugz, 4support...
What's really bizarre is the depth of emotions at play here now...all because I asked my husband to please have my 7-yr old son go to bed (at 10:30 PM) last night so he could get some rest for...
[tr ][td class=msgThread1 height="100%" vAlign=top]Dear JoyArtsful, I'm just so exhausted from all of my energy trying to deal with him right now. He is back to being angry because I told him he...
Hi Tyno - - I love your honesty, you have awareness and obviously continue to strive to do your best. You should be very proud of yourself. And...you are helping people like me, who are trying...
Dear bpempress... Thank you for responding! When you ask your husband why he treats his sweet wife that way, he replies that he is sorry and tells you it has nothing to do with you. I am happy you...
Hi JoyArtFul, All good points. I am so thankful to have met you. I do not mean to defend my husband's bad behavior but you are right that I do when I look back over my writing, I do recognize it as...
Hi Poodles, I appreciate the feedback. And I am not blaming the disease as I clarified earlier, but according to our prior counselor, the bipolar is exacerbating problems that are already there (i.e....
Hi SnowyLynne - yes, sometimes that is feasible. Not when we're in the car, or late at night at home, but sometimes, yes. I'm all for the peace, and many times I do just walk away from him. I guess...
Hi Serafena, I haven't been on the forum in a while, but no, my husband has never been physically abusive. He is verbally abusive, which of course becomes emotional abuse. Not to blame the disease,...
Dear JoyArtFul, Your heartfelt post was so helpful to me, thank you. One thing kept standing out to me as I read your post - it's the awareness you have for your own emotions, and for how you are...
Dear tyno, Thank you so much for taking the time to write back to me. It helps so much to hear the other perspective, I have tried really hard to educate myself on everything about BP, and to be...
Dear friends, I am hoping that some of those who suffer from bipolar can please help me understand if this is common with this illness - if something said rubs my husband the wrong way (ex: "I really...
Dear stillswimmin, You are far from alone, although I know how isolating having a BP husband can feel. /community/emoticons/yeah.gif I am so sorry for the pain you are going through, but in my...
Dear hexe, Wow, I'm seeing some serious problems here - for one, your husband is unstable, untreated and refuses to get help. Two, he is physically abusing you. Three, he is telling you he is having...
Hi Rocketman...and all friends! For some reason, it didn't seem like as long as it's actually been since I've been on here sharing & replying to posts, but I realized yesterday it had been a...
Dear Whyus, I have just finished reading your recent posts and will be sending you a reply by tomorrow. Tonight is a little crazy at my house, but I am thinking of you and want to be here to support...
I agree with Serafena, from my experience it's best to wait until he's stable to talk about anything significant, particularly life changes. I know it's hard...try to hang in there for a few more...
I just can't even imagine what you and your family are feeling as you are going thru this with your husband. Really hope he can be honest and ask for the help he needs, and I hope he is in a good...
Falling & Rocket, I woke up in the middle of the night to find my husband at the computer pulling all of my cell phone records. Each day is just becoming unbearable. I feel like I'm suffocating...
Dear Serafena, My husband didn't have any reaction to the websites I use during the day because I have nothing to hide. I believe I know how to delete the sites I visit, but I truly never thought I'd...
Hey Rocket, You know I've been a lot like you in that I've loved my husband from the bottom of my soul and stuck with him thru all of this, riding the roller coaster for 6 out of our 13 years now. I...
Hugs and wishes for peace to you, Whyus. Sounds like things may be looking up soon. Stay strong, it can be a long road, your husband is lucky to have you. Love, 4support...
Hi Serafena, Will you please delete the first post I made without a Topic, I duplicated it when I posted with the Topic. Thank you!! 4...
[tr ][td class=msgThread2 vAlign=top height="100%"]Wow, I arrived home tonight to find a list of all the websites I had visited during the day sitting by the computer. I am trying to get a handle on...
Hi...but with any type of chest pain (particularly numbness in your legs/arms), I would be cautious and get a second opinion. Maybe see a cardiologist for a work-up. It's never too early to start!...
Dear Serafena, You are right on! My body has forgotten how to relax. It's like I've been on autopilot for years - constantly on the move, working, taking care of my family, dealing with the stress of...
Dear Renae, Thank you so very much for your thoughts and advice. You have been SO helpful to me, and I am going to start working on managing my stress better. I know that it's how we perceive our...
Hi again falling, I'm sorry, I knew you were going to therapy...I hope it gives you some measure of comfort in a very difficult situation. Love, 4support...
Oh falling, I know exactly how you feel - cut off, isolated, betrayed in a way, hurt, confused, angry? Here you are, the one person who would be there by his side to help and support him, and it...
Hi all, I'm new on the Arthritis board...I just found out that I have early arthritis in my left knee (I'm in my 30's!). No one in my family has arthritis, and I'm just wondering since it's an...
Hi LFW, Love and peace to you tonight. 4support...
Hi everyone, I've been researching this term for a while: Chronic Stress. The reason why is probably obvious, but my husband's illness or behaviour resulting from his illness causes me a lot of...
Happy Bill! THANK YOU for bringing out some great news and encouragement for us all. Now, could you please talk with my husband? He is still working on his control issues when it comes to triggers...
Dear Whyus, Everyone is individual, but typically someone diagnosed as Bipolar will start on a mood stabilizer (one or multiple), it's not the same for everyone but it usually takes a good long while...
Dear whyus, I don't want to say this, but I could have written your post. I don't completely understand why, but my husband has done many of the same things after we've been out having a good time...
Dear Falling, Unfortunately, I would say it's to be expected for him to be so resentful and nasty right now while he is clearly not stable yet. I shouldn't preach this advice because I can't seem to...
Dear LFW, I can just hear your pain in your words, LFW. I am so sorry you are facing such hardship right now. As if you weren't dealing with enough already! It's heartbreaking to hear about your...
Oh BD_spouse...I can't even imagine how you feel!! /community/emoticons/shakehead.gif All I can think of is that if I were in your situation right now, I would not hesitate to see an attorney and...
BD_spouse, THANK YOU. I feel like I'm hitting a brick wall with him everytime I talk with him. He is now threatening to stop going to see his counselor at all and only focusing on MY hurt/anger...
Hi friends, I have never felt so alone right now in the struggles I am having with my husband who suffers from BP/ADHD. Even though I know I am far from alone, it just feels like it right now...next...
Hi hexe, Yes, a warm welcome to the board. /community/emoticons/smile.gif I've found this to be a wonderful place for support and insight from people who understand! Doesn't it feel isolating...
Hey Rocket, Sorry to hear about the fighting, I'm sure you're feeling great right about now. /community/emoticons/eyes.gif Listen, I could have written your post, like so many others say who are...
Dear resentfulspouse, Thank you for writing. It's good to know that you have found a way an outlet when your husband is being not-so-nice. It sounds like you've found a way to Peace by staying with...
Dear boyce, I do not want to hijack Rocket's thread, but I did want to say hello to you and respond... I am curious to know why you think your wife may be Bipolar, rather than suffer from depression...
Dear hurt and confused, I'm also wondering if he had previously been diagnosed as Bipolar? If so, not being on the medications that he really needs to stay well would explain the out of character and...
Serafena, your answers help a lot, THANK YOU!! And...I too would like to hear from others because as I've said before, someone can say just one thing and it can make all the difference...it's like an...
Welcome to the board, Whyus. Falling, I am soooooo sorry for the pain that you and your family are going through. May you find the strength and comfort that you need to get you through this. I wish I...
Hi all, Well, all of our stories sound familiar in one way or another... I am still hoping to hear more insight from those who suffer from BP: - What happens to you when the hurtful stuff is ranted...