Thank you SO much Mogli, it means SO much to me to be able to reach out here and be able to visit with a community of people who can see and understand ALL the sides of this. Being connected here has...
Hi all, LONG time no visiting...here's a quick update to what is going on... 1. I am doing overall better with the anxiety and depression that hit me in 2009. The good news for me is it is starting...
Forever Hopeful, Welcome. I too am a spouse to a H with BPII. I also have a teenage son with BPII & ADHD, and a younger son with ADHD (jury still out about BP), and a daughter that is borderline ADHD...
Hi Sukay, EVERYONE it feels like is in therapy in this house. Yes, pdoc seen regularly by all. H still about where he was on owning front, but trying hard to be supportive of me. I'm hanging in but...
Thank you guys for the kind words and support. It is always helpful to hear from you. And yes, not only am I in individual therapy at the moment....but....my H and I are still in couples. It helps....
Serafena, Your right...craptastic week for you. There is only room for it to get better for next week! Have a nice Rosh Hashana. I am so pleased to hear you are doing better!!! Hugs, LFW...
Mogs, You are doing SO well....I am SOOOOO proud of you! Congrats on ALL your victories!!!!! Hugs, LFW...
Hi everyone, been going through my trials and tribulations. For a quick catch up, I am still out on stress leave from work. It is taking a lot of rest to get me caught up. It has been 6 weeks now. I...
Serafena, Over the phone works too! Especially because you are very responsible and honest about where you are at and how things are affecting you. Other than the "visual" he gets from looking at you...
My GOD....I am so tired of being yelled at over and over again. My youngest S has taken to yelling at me with a nasty attitude regardless of what I say (it has happened 8 times so far today). Tonight...
Welcome Yoyoangel, I am a wife to a BP H and S. I have been married 17 years. I am glad you found us. This is a great place to not only get support as the spouse, but to learn so much from those on...
Hi Sukay, Well, here’s the update. It turns out that the “hot flashes” I have been getting, have not been peri-menopause, they are part of the anxiety attacks that have started along with the chest...
Serafena, I am so proud of you for taking the right action for yourself. YOU ROCK! You are brave and you set a fabulous example to all who are coping with BP like you. Keep staying true to yourself...
Serafena, I am so proud of you. And believe me, I UNDERSTAND that the feelings can seem SO big and REAL and POWERFUL. But keep training yourself....when you feel suicide, then say "go to hospital" to...
Serafena, and anyone else who is where you are right now (hint, hint....Mogs! /community/emoticons/smile.gif I don't care what you are "feeling" it is time to use your "override" controls and simply...
Thank you BPWife. It felt good to leave today knowing I don't have to be subjected to him for 10 days. Also, one of the managers acknowledged to me that she feels he treats me different than the...
Thanks Sukay. Yes, I asked for my time off all next week in an e-mail. He said okay. So I am going to spend all my time seeking a new gig. I can't handle this anymore. He has to know how out of line...
Hi everyone, well, I made it through Monday and Tuesday without getting fired. But interestingly, the V.P. of Operations calls to tell me that I will be the one held accountable for seeing a small...
Last year I got a call from a mom of a 5 year old. She had bought story 1 at a toy fair for her child. Her daughter loved it so much that for x-mas, all her daughter asked for was story 2. I felt so...
It is in the works to do so. I'll let you know when it is up. It is just things are slow moving unfortunately. I am hoping it is up in a month or so. Thank you so much for the input, it is...
Oh, okay...So...here it all is in a nutshell. I have had many careers in various avenues of the arts throughout my life...actor, writer, make-up artist. I have owned a business or two. And about 3...
BD_Spouse, I hope you are as proud of yourself as all the rest of us are to see how well you are handling everything thus far. Giving it time and space will certainly give you the perspective you...
Have a great trip. I hope you are going for FUN vs. work, or unpleasant business. LFW...
Am I allowed to share about that here in specifics? I am not sure. I have always kept it veage just in case. Serefena....Olivia....let me know. Either way, Mommy. Michele thank you for your support....
Thanks Serafena! My mom was funny....she said that even though my boss is not the one who has done anything wrong "this time"....I was (innocent and small though it was).....the fact that he is...
Hi Everyone, First let me say, I usually run spell check, but I am having computer problems so for ALL the misspellings....please fogive me!!!!! I have been off the boards for a while. Things here...
Serafena, You are not alone in your feelings of overwhelm at ALL. First, my condolences on your cat. Losing a pet is NEVER easy. I know you'll miss her/him. Second, I am beginning to have a theory...
BD_Spouse.....Clearly, taking your power back works for you. You sound like you are doing GREAT! I am so very pleased for you. REGARDLESS of the final outcome, you will be fine. And your kids will be...
Hi everyone, This may be a strange question, but we have PPO insurance, and our new therapist will only bill generic codes for our couples therapy, which we are in as a result of my H's BP and the...
BD_Spouse, you child said it all. You need to see life from his point of view....right now, he is sharing that he and his sibling(s) take a back seat to their father and it doesn't feel good. IMAGINE...
LindzKay09, Making a marriage work when one of the spouses is BP is hard, I won't lie. I am a spouse to a BP H. I will be very direct and honest with you. In my household, it would be a deal breaker...
BD_Spouse, Wellness is something it is acceptable for a spouse to expect and demand from the ill spouse. If you want your power back, don't let this be his decision alone, make some for yourself,...
BD_Spouse - YOU didn't do anything wrong. Your H is ill with a condition called Bipolar and he is not well at this moment. It doesn't matter that he is out of the hospital, you have contended with...
Tennisdoc09, First...it is good you can see what is going on with you. Because of that, you have a shot at manually controlling what you are going through, or at least minimizing the damage to others...
Sukay, Great to hear from you. Progress still being made in small steps. What therapy has done is calmed things down and get him to think in more even terms of the work around here (although that can...
HOM, my brother growing up was in many facilities. What I can share is this....not all are the same. Check out some other ones. IF your daughter needs 24/7 care in a facility, there are many out...
Relax and Enjoy!!!! LFW...
Mogs, I am glad to hear from you that the meds are currently working, and I agree with Mommy.Michelle, the more aware you are, the more control you have. To all this I say...Fabulous news! I can...
Helper, I hear your fear and sorrow about what you child is going through. You are not alone. I am a mom to a 15.5 yr old S who is BP II, rapid cycler w/ADHD , and another S who is 8 going through...
Olivia, So sorry to hear your having stressful times. Hang in there and remember we are also here to support you. We're here if you need us. BIG HUGS TO YOU MY FRIEND! LFW...
Hi all, just an update to the day. Well, it looked like it would stay crappy, then my H got off it sometime last night, but still refused to hear what I wanted for my day. Then this morning, it...
Hi Olivia, Today is not a great day, I feel like even though it is Mothers Day Weekend, my oldest son is pouting at me because he didn't get the answer he wanted, my H is growling at me since I tried...
Are you a collector of anything? Use to be, but not anymore...but I like g iraffe's so my kids give me lots of those If you could have any superpower, what would it be? I'd be [b]Samantha from...
Loving someone, it is so interesting to me that regardless of the individuality of each of our "stories", the feedback in SO many cases remains the same. I posted this response to another spouse in...
BP_Spouse, I am sorry for all the difficulties your H's illness is putting you through. Keep in mind, you & your kids matter too, and while it is tragic how ill he is, there may come a point where he...
Hi Sukay, I only have a moment to say hello. I think it is SO great that you can see your own progress even in the down moments of a cycle. THAT IS progress. Things here have been interesting, but...
Poodles, It is also my belief that a person with BP does better as soon as they are willing to see, acknowledge and OWN their own behavior and not put the onus of it on another. It sounds like you...
Chrisinsea, I have been married to a BP for 17 years, and yes, there are tools, but I'm STILL learning them. My best suggestion quickly would be to have you go to a support group for spouses, or BP...
TL, you are hardly alone, many of us spouses know EXACTLY where you are on this stuff. It is a hard and lonely life for sure. Just remember, whatever choice you make, stay or go, is YOUR RIGHT to...
Mogs...STOP THE GUILT. It serves nothing at all. PLUS, you have nothing to feel guilty about except being HUMAN. SO...with that said....recognize that what you have been doing is making choices....