Katy, I agree that you need to walk away during a tantrum. When he is calm later on then tell him that you can't live with behavior like that and won't. That's what I did about dh's verbal abuse and...
My dh drinks more than I would like for him to but not as much as he use to. I am so grateful given that both his mom and dad were alchoholics and several others in his family are. Early on in our...
Hi All, I am a middle age and overweight woman. I have alot pain in my shoulders and back more so on the left side and around and under my rib cage in the front left too. I have started getting these...
That was a great post Casem. You made such a good point and are so right that loving someone with bipolar won't change their bad behaviors. That's one reason I stopped trying to have discussions with...
Lost and Confused, Your wife needs you much more than she is admitting to you and more than she probably even knows herself. My dh use to call me numerous times a day too. Mine has had alot of these...
Well, Katy, It seems like some women will stay and put up with the behavior. But it is just so stressful for me. I didn't know for years what the problem was, I just knew I wasn't happy with how dh...
Lost and Confused, My husband acts sexually the way your wife is acting alot. He will say he wants passion like he had when two people first meet each other. Well, that's not going to happen after...
Hi Sukay, He has been seeing a psychiatrist for about 2 years mainly because he was going through withdrawal from valium. His MD doctor wouldn't continue giving it to him. Other doctors had given him...
Thanks for the response LFW, I wondered if some would think that having real love in our lives is more important than the pain that we face with a spouse who can't or won't be responsible for a...
Well, I haven't posted in awhile. I do come in and read sometimes just trying to understand this disorder. My husband must be bipolar or maybe bpd and definitely has ADD. I have read extensively...
I'm not bipolar but have trouble getting to sleep alot. I put in ear plugs and force myself to read something fairly boring. It most always makes me sleepy. Reading keeps my mind from wandering and...
I've been out with my daughter and with friends for most of the day (we took her to a pumpkin farm/petting zoo. -- A baby cow tried to eat her hair. It was adorable. AW........how cute!!! And I'm...
Well, Serafena, I have been thinking about you since I read your post. Wow "TWO" Masters Degrees!! That is impressive. Wish I did....lol.... You know, I use to be a personnel recruiter and it was a...
((((((HUGS))))))))) Dasa...
Hi Sheltercrow, Welcome to the forum. I am sorta new here myself. I really hate to hear that you had just a difficult life growing up. I hope your medications are helping you..... Dasa...
Wow, this is great.... Dh has soooo much trouble making decisions and he wants to talk without me interrupting because he says he will lose his thoughts if I say anything before he is through. That...
I have to say FBF that you sure think things through better than most guys out there that I know. I understand about not telling people, I didn't either and I'm glad that we didn't. I could have...
I am reading 'Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder" which is about how to work with your bp spouse in managing the disorder. It explains how to approach him and what to do and what to say. I don't...
Another thought about bringing up old issues. Dh is not only good at the blame game but he also will bring up stuff just to get reassurance from me that I do love him and need him and so forth. Or to...
Well, to me, I hope Dutchie can continue to do well and get control of her life regardless of what you guys do as a couple. In hindsight, I know that my dh starts throwing all sorts of things at me...
Hi Atwitsend, Welcome to the forum. It seems like there are bp folks here that have their symptoms under control and that is hopeful. I'm trying to learn from them and maybe it will help my husband....
Oh gosh, I hate that you both are going through so much. It's tough when other people want to show their butt. Life is just too short for such. Maybe you guys need to find a way to try to relax...
Hi Fancy Face, Welcome to the forum. My dh takes Cymbalta and likes it alot. He has anxiety and depression and he can really tell if he hasn't taken it. He takes requip for restless legs. The Lyrica...
What Happened, Welcome to the forum. I'm new too. I'm trying to learn like you are and my heart goes out to you that your dream is getting shattered right in front of you and your future isn't what...
Well, FBF, When dh has been on a business trip, I still right out ask him if he did anything sexual with anyone when he gets home. It is for my benefit so I don't have to wonder. I am relieved when I...
So sorry for all that you are going through. I hope you can keep your strength and be extra good to yourself too right now so you can "try" not to let all the stress and grief get the best of you. I...
NeefFeefa, You might want to make sure that your staph isn't MRSA staph. If it is, it usually needs antibiotics by IV to clear it up. They can tell by the cultures and a sensitivity test tells them...
Thanks Serafena, we are in the USA. Dh is on 3 meds now and sometimes they work but not always. He goes every 6 months too and we can do that right now but if it started getting to where he had to do...
Thank you Honey Bee for responding and giving me such good first hand information. You really are living this just as I am. Yes, I feel so overwhelmed by his ups and downs and overspending and more...
Hey FBF, I read the majority of this thread. Just want to say that I have been in your shoes and I know how you feel. My dh and I have been together over 20 years and he most likely is bp. We are...
I just thought I would mention that when I fail to take my premarin for menopause symptoms, I become very anxious and irritable to the point that I could kill the wall if it looks at me wrong. I have...
Thank you Olivia!! /community/emoticons/smile.gif ...
Thank you Serafena, The pdoc sent him to this psychiatrist originally because he wouldn't prescribe his valium. And he said he wasn't comfortable prescribing an ADD med. Hubby's pdoc before that had...