Yes I am invited by my partner to the sessions with the doctor. Did get out walking today -- took a kick in th pants, but glad I did it. You helped on this. I do some mediation and...
Dear UA -- I do agree that this needs to be discussed with his psychiatrist. At his meetings, I am asked by him to attend. But I find the exchanges very superficial. Like a lot of doctor, the doctor...
This is from Philomene. I've been on the forum before. I am worried about an issue with my bp partner. He has manifested some symptoms of paranoia before -- jealousy, etc -- and one event long ago...
I am going through a very stressful period with both a general doctor and a specialist do not stay in communication A meeting yesterday over my exams for cancer issues was dumped back n me by my...
Hi Ben -- I know where you are coming from about the ego-issues of BP. If, as you say, her family loves her and enjoys her -- can you talk with them about YOUR issues. They are making you carry the...
Hi Ben -- Well my husband too had a bad car accident two years ago -- but the BP symptoms were there all along. It's pretty well impossible to get someone committed no matter where you live. It takes...
Hi -- That is the great thing about this forum -- you find people you've had the same types of experiences. Does you wife, assuming she's now diagnosed -- stick with her meds? That's working with my...
Hi -- I'm already a member because of a Bipolar partner. I have suffered depression (never hospitalized) but treated by shrinks and psychologists intermittently since the age of 7/8. This followed...
These were upped a month ago, slightly. As was dosage of mild anti-depressant/anti-axiety. He's scheduled to see his doctor in a couple of weeks. I sit in on the sessions (as asked by my...
Hi Philomene -- Well I am just experiencing the first manic high since my husband came out of clinic (second time in 12 months.). The manifestation -- overspending without insulting me. Now, heh, a...
Hi -- I live in a place withlots of rural roads and will give this one a try. i find that I can't really cry -- like that's the ultimate and I'lll never stop, though Ikknow it's not true. Guess I am...
Hi -- Yes those are good suggestions. Le that anger out privately (letters etc) not to be sent. I have one good friend here, wise and kind and will call her today for suggestions on how best to...
Hi -- Glad you have so much to consult on your hard=drive. Someday when you feel "down" try taking half an hour to clean up some of the excess on the hard-drive. It's like sorting out your socks. the...
Hi -- Have to check on his books. His titles are generally "more gentle" in nature. I realize there are lots and lots of books out there on "do it yourself" healing, meditation. He was recommended by...
Hii to all -- I wanted to thank the member who sent me to Richard's website. I think he is very much in the same area as another American Kabat-Zinn (or Zinn-Kabat) who takes the "eastern approach"...
Dear Jade -- Thanks will get linked up through the mail. As you say we mustn't hi-jack the forum. I just have to set up my own account to access this service. You sound better already. Actually I'm...
Edit: Post was removed as it inappropriate. Please feel free to contact me for more information. My e-mail is: [email protected] Thanks UA ...
Dear Jade -- I love animals very much and have always had cats and dogs in my life. Each one as dear as the last when they inevitably become old and ill and we have to let them go. To witness abuse...
Dear Jade -- Philomene again. Are you okay??? I know that we are in different time zones so my answers don't reach you at the moment you need. Don't let other people on the forum tell you what and...
Hi jade, NO you didn't "scare me off" with your expressions of reaching out and connection. I write what I think and you should do the same. And there may be times I go "silent". An idea for cheering...
Hi Jade, Well I think I mentionned that I am having exams for cancer issues. Biopsies show nothing, but there are issues with lungs and intestines. So three more tests, hopeully all done before the...
Dear Jade -_ I hear you about not trying to use the techniques when you are under attack. During routine exams while my BP spouse was hospitalized for a life=threatening self-inflicted event, I...
Hi Jade --- I had not thought of the fear of enjoyment in the way you describe it -- that it makes you/me/others let down their guard, makes us feel vulnerable. That's a very valuable insight -- it...
One thing about issues of abuse, is that living in that situation, then results in the abused also becoming a self-abuser -- like you think at first if you go along with abuse, try to pacify the...
Thanks very much for the advice about setting very small achievable goals, rather than taking giant disastrous steps. In think that I may have worked out one reason for my anger -- that BP partners...
I like baby steps and insights about "conditioning'. Like the PAVOLIAN response that makes you so vulnerable to other peoples pain, while ignoring the damage and pain you experience. I feel like THE...
Dear UA -- thanks for your letter. WHen I grow up I want to be a veterinarian. But I am almost 64. I think I would be healhier, and eventually happier without my BP partner. But he uses all sorts of...
Hi and thanks again -- We did discuss therapy after the first incident (actually the second if you count a self mutliation event. Since the event in September of 2013 I've been to Al-Anon support...
Hi from Philomene -- NO my husband is not in therpay. I had a therapist after the first incident. I now understand the rules about certain events that cannot be discussed in the forum. I started with...
Hi i am new to this community, but not new to living with a bi-polar spouse. I am appalled at how I accepted his behavior for nearly 32 years of marriage. I have had depression and a lot of my own...