We are using my work provided assistance and its a licensed mc. If she tells me mike I want you to see anther person I will. I let her see first tue. I have noproblem with going just want her to see...
Mmmnavy I am not avoiding only letting current mc tell me if she says she wants to see me by myself I will....
MMMNAVY, I will consider it for myself after a few sessions of MC.. I know she has no interest in herself going. She has a fear of them. I think cause she is afraid of what they might bring up.. Pain...
MMMNAVY You provide some great points.. Some of which I already thought about. The PPD and the youth comment. I read a book from Johnathan Gray. How to get what you want and want what you have. It...
No I'm sorry cause your doing great for non native tongue. I am sure karen is tired of posting on my thread :). I guess cause I constantly over think. Yet it makes me feel better and karen helps from...
[/quote]Byee, We are not sleeping seperate. Other then 1 or 2 nights my wife has slept in same bed.. Like I said our current situation is exactly like normal except for no closeness. No...
Well no sleep last night. I keep waking up and getting close to wife. Last night she in her sleep returned the feelings. She spooned me and also sissored me. It was nice to see her get close to me....
Ile I am sorry about what or going through.. Obviously your stuck in a bad situation.. He needs to find out why he is angry.. There must be other things and you add to it. I would never stand for...
Yes she has some odd behavour going on. Wants to run but doesn't.. Wants to get away from me but makes no moves to. IE sleeping in our bed with me. Makes sure she doesn't hurt feelings and no other...
How are you so confident she will face this? Your a lot more optimistic. I don't think she will give me a chance. Btw our 15 year is in another month. Just last year we talked about renewing vows....
Karen I want nothing better then to forget the past and move forward. I have no problem as I am trying to do that. My wife on theother hand can never move past it. This is why we are in this...
The back and forth of her emotions continues. This morning I said while we are working through our problems lets not get other people involved. She said I am taking this day by day.. We will see. Now...
Well it wasn't what I was expecting.. We drove down together and one of the issues we had came out. about how I treat her and why. I Simple put it that I get no help so I don't look at her very good....
Karen you are so positive. I only wish my wife was a tenth of that. Your kind words is giving me strength. I feel a bit better. Kitt I only say about beating me up because I can take it. If I did...
I want to get beat up for everything I did to make her hurt. it's the only way I can understand but I need to learn how to interact with her so I stop damaging the relationship from my side. I have...
Well I think we hit another break through.. This morning I was a little upset and I can see she was.. She told me today that she thinks she will explode at the MC tonight. She is going to let out how...
You know what is odd is she thinks she is fine. She doesn't think anything is wrong. In fact she thinks its me. She is very odd. She said she will go to this one session but won't commit to a second...
I was planing on giving her a promise letter. Basically spelling out my promise to her and to give her the love and dedication for the rest of her life. To have her know that I will honor my end and...
Her image has always been low. As I said before she met me she was diagnosed with low Self-esteme and being a co-dependant. Since i was young and nieve I think I didn't realize what happens when...
WellI spoke to her today and she is making an appointment to see her doctor. I never asked her she did that on her own. My problem is her doctor isn't that good. I don't see her trying to help but...
Karen you know if we can get by the first BIG problem I think the rest will fall in line.. The big problem at least I see is the unresolved problems.. We have a habit of issues bothering us and...
Sounds like you lack confidence. Are you seeing somebody?/ maybe letting out why you feel that way will help you believe you are like that.....
Thanks Karen... I think I hit a break through last night though.. After I got off here I took daughter upstairs She is so fragile right now.. I said how doy u feel abot mommy and daddy?? She said she...
Another bad day for wife. I went to work early and didn't talk to her at all until I got home at 5:30.. Mother-in-law called me at work to say she spoke to wife and she asked her to go to councelling...
I really appreciate all the kind words you give Karen. Her take on us is she is afraid that if she agrees to try I end up going back to ignore her. I do get less close but not because I am...
Well she said that the texting had nothing to do with him but just to feel sexy again. He text her back which she showed me and he was pissed and she promised me never again. She feels trapped here....
That would be great if I could get feedback.. A little update.. Well big one. I came home last night and talked with mother-in-law.. Asked about how her talk went with her daughter and she said she...
I am trying not to blame her. More or less venting why?????? I have been more trying to prove all the good things being married and here then to point out what she's not doing. I vent them here.. :)...
Sometimes he helps in ways your not looking for him too.. Just cause you expect him to help you a certain way doesn't mean he will.....
Tess I see that modd swing from my wife.. It is a very hard thing to adjust too.. Try to think about something i the future you are loking forward too or plan something. It will brighten your day.....
I guess it is much harder for a man to figure out a women.. Maybe I am making an excuse here but women are so complicated and every day things change. What benefit of the doubt you speaking about??...
Not sure I am patient or a fool.. I think I have heard her tell me that we are on different planes when communicating. I know she doesn't appreciate it. I also think that the more good I do the more...
oppss.... Might have done a booboo. I made dinner for the family but didn't eat. Wife came in and said I would never ask you to do that. I would never expect it if you were not eating.. (sounded...
Thanks Karen.. I am taking it all personally. She has made me feel every step of the way it is me. It's my fault.. She has told me a number of times I have made her who she is today. This is the...
Well a very uneventful day. I feel very beatup. I think cause I am doing it to myself inside. If this what depression feels like I can understand the hoplesness. I have been told by a number of...
Putting my little one to bed means brining him upstairs awake and putting him in the crib.. There isn't a lot to it and pretty much they only thing she does with him at night. Well I heard her crack...
How is your life outside of work?? do you go out with friends?? have a significant other?? Exercising is a great way to make you feel better and more positive outlook.....
Good advise. Don't look at what you can't change. Don't dwell on it. Move to future and more productive thinking. Think of something you like.....
Yes I have seen the depression tired. My wife slept Sat night from 2am to 12PM then fell asleep again around 3-4 when son took nap.. I have a hard time taking naps unless I am exhausted.....
Got to VENT here. I came home and brought home a nice chicken for dinner. ALl I had to do was make side dish and veg. We all got changed and went in pool. Best part of my night. Came in and finished...
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Friend I have never tried to do that. I am afraid she would think something is wrong with me.. LOL.. Last Night I avoided her. I left her alone after I took care of dinner which she thanked me. I...
What is scary is this is the 2nd time this has happened in our marriage. The last time was just before our 10 year anniversary. Well 5 years to the month its happened AGAIN.. We are now just around...
Lets hope day 2 and she doesn't buy the beer.. She said she will continue to get off the meds but has no plan on how to combat the depression.. I get mixed feelings on the MC. I am not sure she will...
These drugs are very scary. They can really change moods in a blink of an eye. I seen it with my wife. If her time of the month is coming she would increase the pills to help offest it. You do have...
Friend.. I understand what you are saying. It is 100% true but you have to understand my wife tells me all the time she doesn't need one.. She said they are all quacks. She went to one when we split...
Thanks all for the kind words.. She seems to be so overwhelmed at the moment. She needs so much space to sit on facebook and play those stupid games. She wants to have a social life and I think she...
Thanks Yankee Girl, My wife needs space and time. She doesn't really have any friends and seems like her whole life is spent trying to make other people happy. IE Work/Kids/Me. I work odd hours and...