I knew her for 9 months before we married. I believe that she does have issues, but that's no excuse for what she has done. She is determined to leave, hence walking away from our marriage a year...
Wow, it's been awhile since I posted here. Well, a few things have happened since then... I wasn't ready to give up on my marriage since my wife hadn't officially filed, so we kept in limited,...
I did cut her off 3 months ago. We had very limited contact until the last 2 weeks when she asked about the medical bills. The bills were completely covered by insurance, so I don't have to pay...
A summary dissolution is an "easy divorce" for people that want a simple way out of a marriage in California. It is a divorce without lawyers or expenses as long as we both agree to the terms, and in...
I didn't have a chance to look at the documents until now. My wife actually wants a summary dissolution not a legal separation, and she isn't asking for anything from the divorce. As she said she...
My wife's sister came here with the separation papers last night. Apparently my wife has been testing me to see how much I care since she left. She has been flip flopping on wanting to try again or...
Thanks for the support. Yeah, she is manipulative whether she realizes it or not. She went to the dr and found out the lump in her breast was only a cyst this week. So I guess now that all is ok with...
Well, my wife just called to say that she's sending me legal separation documents from the court. This is after she asked me the last two weeks to cover her medical bills, which I told her I would....
Update - My therapy process is complete, but I'm still going every couple weeks to make sure it sticks. I haven't spoken to my wife in over a month. We only exchanged a couple texts, where she sent...
I wrote a lengthy letter to my wife about where I am now, what I've learned in therapy, how I could make things better between us, and my feelings about how she left and her blaming me for it. I also...
I'm feeling much better lately. My therapy has really helped me become a happier person. I've learned how to meet my needs through skill building and rethinking, which I will always be able to fall...
I'm not doing so well today. My wife and I haven't had much contact in 3 weeks, except for her calling me 3 times on my birthday last week and an email that she didn't get the jobs she applied for....
Thanks for all the advice. I realize that I made emotional choices while she was here. She's manipulating me, whether she's aware of it or not, into getting what she wants. Her happiness depends on...
I spoke to my wife about her intentions for visiting and also to my therapist, and I decided not to cancel her trip here. She visited for 3 days. At first, she acted more like a friend and distant....
Her behavior is confusing. I agree that if she's set on not reconciling, it's time to cut her off completely. No money or contact. She is living 800 miles away in another state, so it's not difficult...
Well, my wife is very spoiled and probably doesn't know any better. She is childish in many ways. But, I do feel used if she has no intention of reconciling and keeps asking me for things. I did tell...
Here's an update on my situation. I have been seeing a therapist every week for the past month, which has really helped me deal with my issues and also see my relationship with my wife from a new...
My wife called me this morning to check on me, so I suppose I'll forget about sending the card now. She was happy to hear that I'm going to a therapist and working on myself. She's doing the same...
I really don't know if it's wise to send a card. I'm in the dark with her. I would like her to know that I'm thinking of her while I work on myself. I do hope to reconcile, but at the same time I'm...
I haven't heard from her in 5 days. I saw my therapist again, and he suggested sending her a card or email just to let her know what's going on with me because otherwise she has no idea, especially...
I don't think I will acknowledge those dates. My wife has contacted me everyday since she left by phone and text to first say she's sorry she hurt me, then she got a flu shot on our insurance, then...
I met with a psychologist who specializes in anger and depression. He also does individual and marriage counseling. I'm going every week now to work on my issues. He didn't understand why my wife's...
I'm going to a therapist today to try and fix my control, anger and depression issues. I made a list of all the things I criticized about my wife, and it's unbelievable to me how negative I've been....
Thanks for all the advice. I would normally want the support of my family, but since they are the cause of many issues that led to the downfall of my marriage, I don't know if I even want to speak...
A lot of our disagreements are superficial. But, she just couldn't take my unhappiness and constant criticism anymore. I pushed and pushed until she was gone. I kept trying to change her, and I...
I will focus on improving myself. I already bought some self help books and plan to start working out again. I haven't slept properly since we moved here over 6 months ago. Actually I haven't slept...
My wife is packing everything of hers and leaving. She's signing over her car to me. She returned her Xmas present from me that can only be used here. She won't reconsider anything from our talk. The...
I agree that we're disconnected and leading separate lives. I know I could reconnect us and where our problems lie, but she won't even give it a chance. You're probably right that it's for the best....
I don't think it was fair either to let it go this far without warning me that it may soon end. She said that she gave me red flags from our past arguments, but she wanted me to fix things naturally...
My wife and I talked. I remained calm and listened. She told me everything that's been bothering her with our relationship. She says it's half my family and half me, and she went through a list of...
It may not be depression. She told me that she had malaria as a child and almost died. The medication she had to take affected her personality and made her very angry and easily overreact to...
I haven't heard from my wife yet about when she's going to be here today. I was thinking about what she told me about having plans to come here, and that she said she would call me late tonight or...
I don't know if she was officially diagnosed with depression. But, she cried for the first month after we moved here, and then started seeing a therapist weekly to deal with it. She wouldn't discuss...
Here's some additional perspective on my life with my wife. I told her to find a job when we moved here, especially to get her out of the house and to meet new friends here, which would also help her...
My wife left a month ago for an extended but planned family visit in another state, but now she won’t come back home, which she just told me a week before she was originally planning to return. We...